Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid in a wedding next month and the bachelorette party is next weekend. The girl’s Maid/Matron of Honor sent out invites a couple weeks ago.
I got a call from a mutual friend saying she wasn’t sure if she was invited, but wanted to carpool.
I wasn’t sure what to say so i said “sure, you can ride with me”. Thinking, if she didn’t get an invite she would change her mind…but…I’m not sure.
The girl getting married isn’t one to probably want a big group of girls…but just not sure what to do cuz I don’t want to be a b*tch and say “uh, did you even get an invite?”
Post # 3
If you’re certain that she isn’t invited, give her a call and politely apologize for accepting the carpool offer before determining who’s invited. Then explain to her that your friend had her heart set on an intimate group for the party. Hopefully she’ll be understanding about it.
Post # 4
My advice would be to call your friend up and let her know that the invites have gone out and ask if she received one. If she hadn’t, just explain that the bride wanted a very small group of friends to go…
you can check with Maid/Matron of Honor and see if it’s OK to bring her along. It’s only one more person and will save both you and your friend from the awkwardness of trying to explain that she didn’t get an invite.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies, I know your right, I just didn’t want to have to be the one to say anything… but I also don’t want to bring someone who isn’t invited (although I suspect the bride really wouldnt be upset about it). I will just ask if she got an invite and if she was still planning on riding with me. That would probably prompt her to ask if there were formal invitations sent to the guest list. If she doesnt, Ill just mention that I got mine.