(Closed) How to tell someone u dont want them to be a BM but you’re having their friend?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@UKBuzz: You don’t have to tell her that she’s not going to be a bridesmaid. Just keep moving along with the planning.

If she does bring it up at some point, just have something ready to say like you could only have 3 to make numbers even with your Fiance. Or you don’t even need to give her an explanation. It’s completely up to you who you have in your bridal party. And this girl Anna sounds like more of a pain then a good friend.


Does your friend Jo ever hang out just with Anna? Does she share your feelings about Anna? Could she run interference if Anna brings it up to her when you aren’t around?

Post # 4
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d love to know how this turned out for you, since I am in a very similar situation with two friends. I want one to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man, but not the other. I’ve already asked the one and she’s said yes, but I’m worried about the other’s reaction when she finds out!

Post # 5
3303 posts
Sugar bee

You don’t need to say anything- just keep planning…. if she ever questions just say you wanted to keep the numbers even, nothing personal.

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