- 7 years ago
I am having a bit of a dilemma about bridesmaids, and wondered if anyone else had experienced something similar or could advise…
Basically, I’m having three bridesmaids – my sister (MOH), a good friend who I was bridesmaid for a couple of years ago, plus another girl who I have known for 6 years, and who I’ve lived with for 2-3 of those, and like very much (let’s call her Jo).
The only trouble is, at the same time as meeting Jo, I also met her friend Anna, and during the next 4-5 years, the three of us have pretty much always met up in a group of 3, gone out together etc. I did consider having Anna as a Bridesmaid or Best Man as well, but, without being mean, I just know from being let down by her countless times before that she would be a pain in the @ss… not only from a ‘probably trying to upstage everyone else’ kind of way (she is a bit of a diva), but also because she is constantly late for everything, never turns up with the right stuff, and is generally a bit of a liability.
As an example, I invited her and Jo around to my flat the other night so I could cook them dinner; Anna agreed that she would make brownies for dessert, so I thought great-that’s sorted. But instead, she turned up an hour late (with no explanation), with a box of brownie mix and no other ingredients. She then got really snarky because I a) was already using my baking sheet to cook dinner, and b) didn’t have four eggs instantly available to her to cook the brownie mix with. So I then had to go to the supermarket, at about 9.30pm with my other friend to buy her eggs!! I was so mad that at that point I just thought ‘screw it’ and bought a ready-made dessert instead as I couldn’t bear any more of her dramas.
Afterwards, I thought “this is what she’d be like the entire time if she were a bridesmaid”, and believe me, that is not the only example of things like that – many times she has turned up so late to meet me that I’ve had to leave before she got there (1-1.5hrs late) etc.
So my question is – how do I handle telling her that I don’t want her to be a bridesmaid?! I have already asked Jo, and she has accepted, and so far has been fab.
But I am dreading Anna finding out, (not sure if she already does), but she is such a diva, I am just anticipating her kicking off about it… what do you think, Bees? Please help! x