(Closed) How to tell the bride you're not paying for makeup

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just tell her you plan on doing your own make up.

Post # 4
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree that just because you’re a bridesmaid does not mean you’re supposed to pay out the ass.

Just tell her you can’t afford it. If you think it will help, tell her you’ll let her look at the makeup you’ll be applying yourself beforehand (Or send her pictures if she can’t see it in person) so she can “approve” it.

Post # 5
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I say just be honest.  Tell her that the amount of money you are spending is starting to add up and in the grand sceme of her big day – what your face looks like realy won’t matter. haha (no offense) 

Post # 6
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m surprised you have to pay for all that. I was under the impression that BMs only really need to pay for their dresses and shoes. Hair and makeup was covered by the bride because she would have to pay for her own anyway. I DUNNO, I wasn’t a typical bride.

Just tell her you can’t afford it. I can’t imagine what makeup is unacceptable beyond “clown” or “hooker”

Post # 7
3209 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just call her and say that you decided to do your own makeup. It’s ridiculous if she expects everyone to pay for their own. If it’s required and should foot the bill.

Post # 8
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@melundie:  Agree with the other ladies. Just politely let her know that your budget does not allow for makeup and you will be doing it yourself. And that’s that.

Post # 9
1334 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Wow. I probably wouldn’t spend that much for makeup either. I would probably tell her that you’ve already paid so much and that you also find it unrealistic to spend so much on makeup. Alternatively, you could ask her what style makeup is being done for the maids so you could do it yourself or get it done for a more inexpensive price.

Post # 11
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think you should just tell her that you plan to do your own make-up….and hair and nails if you want! I don’t think everyone has to be as pampered as the bride, unless of course she is paying for it. If not, it’s nice to have the OPTION, but you should not be forced to have those services done!

Post # 12
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the idea of sending beforehand approval photos…it shows that you still care and she can have say if she like it or not. I am sure she will understand – weddings do cost a lot, even if you are a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 13
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Dear bridefriend,

Thank you for looking into professional makeup for the bridesmaids.  Unfortunately, I cannot afford that expense.  I will be doing my own makeup that morning.  I can’t wait to be there!

Overtaxed bridesmaid

Post # 14
12340 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should just tell her you are doing your own make up, and that you did it for your own wedding as the BRIDE, so you know what you’re doing.  I personally dont think I’d send pics for approval.  That just opens up the door for her to say, no and that she rather you get it professionally done, and then you have to be the one to fight back.  If you just tell her you’re going to take care of it, she has to decide if she wants to be the confrontational one.

Post # 16
554 posts
Busy bee

I doubt you’re the only one out of the bridal party feeling this way. In every wedding I’ve been a part of, the bride paid for makeup if she wanted us to have it done. $85 sounds like a lot for makeup application…

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