Post # 1
So originally my fiance and I were planning to do a buffet style dinner. We sent out our invitations with the rsvps showing the meal options and with a “please indicate how many guests would prefer each entree” sort of thing on it. Sadly, after we sent our invitations, my parents decided they’d prefer we have a plated dinner. Well, now I’m stuck in a position where I’m receiving rsvps with the number of entrees per family, but not who is getting these entrees. So, that kind of makes doing escort cards very difficult since I now have to know which person asked for which entree. What options do I have to fix this?
Post # 2
Go back to a buffet. Invitations are out, too bad parents, you can’t go back on your word after it is sent out!
Post # 3
Cortney Aileen Clevenger : One would assume that you will be seating the people from the same invitation and rsvp card at the same table. When you do your seating plan you will be able to determine that there are 3 beef and 6 chicken needed at one table. Although some vendors would prefer you had something more specific, it’s easy enough for the waitstaff to bring 3 beef and 6 chicken and ask each guest their preference.
Post # 4
julies1949 : Well to some extent, yes. We are planning on putting families together, with the exception of kids who are old enough to sit with other kids they know. We didn’t do a kids meal option either, because we were doing a buffet and the food was already something that kids will (for the most part) eat. So, that kind of complicates things. Also, I should give a little more detail. We were originally going to have our reception in Daytona, FL in a condominium, but we had hurricane damage and had to change our venue space. It’s been a nightmare.
Post # 5
ljm308 : Well, they are paying for the wedding, including the catering, so that’s sort of harder said then done.
Post # 6
Call everyone and ask them is pretty much your only option.
Post # 7
Cortney Aileen Clevenger : You can’t take invitations back. They were printed with buffet, so have a buffet. It’s too late for them to change their mind…UNLESS they are willing to track down every single one of your guests to get the individual meals.
Post # 8
I would tell your parents that its too late now that invites have gone out.
Do plated service for salad/soup at the beginning of the meal and then buffet for the rest. Would that appease them?
Post # 9
Cortney Aileen Clevenger : I would send out a mass Facebook and/or e-mail message informing the guests of the plated dinner and to indicate which meal they would prefer. Call the people who you can’t connect to that way or those who do not respond. Pain in the @ss? Yes! However, telling your parents to pretty much f-off is never a good idea…especially in this situation where they are hosting the event. I’m really suprised that people would suggest for you be so rude to your generous parents. Makes me think twice about having kids :-/
Post # 10
I feel for you. This is tough. But- you don’t really have a good option- other than telling your venue we will have 70 chickens and 54 steaks, but we don’t know where everything goes. I think that’s kind of a recipe for disaster.
There’s no magic way to de-code your RSVP’s. All you can do is A) guess B) call everyone and ask or C) go back to the buffet.
Are your parents aware of what a logistical nightmare switching from buffet to plated is?
Post # 11
Cortney Aileen Clevenger : can you do table side ‘order’ tell your caterer the numbers, then have them go around at the beginning and take ‘orders’ – i’ve been to weddings like this before.
I know our caterer also allowed for a few extras of each in case someone changed their mind last minute
Post # 12
Buffet is way easier IMO.
Post # 13
Okay, so to give a little more info, I have 110 on my guest list and so far I’ve had 37 RSVP and out of those 37, I have 10 who I can’t determine who each dish is for. I don’t know if that information helps. I’m not terribly embarrassed to ask those individuals because of the whole hurricane situation, but I do feel a lot of guilt by telling my parents off. I can’t treat them that way. I am trying to find the best way to deal with this without seeming ignorant and without putting my parents out. I do appreciate all of the input though. I really don’t want to ask each person, but if I have to do it, then I guess that’s all there is to it. Please feel free to continue giving options! I won’t be making any decisions for another week or two.
Post # 14
Cortney Aileen Clevenger : You are beating a dead horse as the old saying goes. There is no other way to know who ordered what, than to ask them.
Post # 15
Cortney Aileen Clevenger : Since your RSVPs are trickling in, just call each couple/family as you receive their RSVP and explain that there is now a plated meal, and these are your options: A, B, C. Keep a tally, then use escort cards so that waitstaff know where the meals are to be served at each table. It’s not the end of the world, just a hassle for you. Don’t wait until the eleventh hour to do this, but do them as they come in to minimize the stress and time involved.