(Closed) How to Tell Your Girlfriend to Stop Pressuring You to Commit

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
525 posts
Busy bee

Really interesting! I think that’s the first “male perspective on waiting” I’ve read that hasn’t suggested women who want to get engaged are obessed with diamonds and dresses! I agree with everything he says actually.

Post # 4
2893 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsT2b: No joke. You’re totally right. Most articles at some point indicate that maybe you are insecure or obsessive or want commitment for the wrong reasons. Which is disheartening and a little offensive sometimes. Just because your guy is literally too lazy or too comfortable with the status quo doesn’t make you desperate and unreasonable. Glad you shared. Kinda wish it had been posted to GQ – get more guys to read. 🙂

Post # 5
1543 posts
Bumble bee

For the most part, I agree with what the article has to say, except at the end, where it mentions that a long engagement will give the girl the commitment she’s looking for, and will give the guy time to work through his feelings for her. Ummm, what? Work through what feelings? If he’s not ‘sure’, then he shouldn’t have proposed. There should be no feelings to work through. It implies that the long engagement gives him time to back out, as it were, if he suddenly decides that he’s not really in it for the long haul. Which is just another form of ‘stringing her along’. Not cool. But, to play devil’s advocate with that, I suppose it would be better for a guy to back out during the engagement, than right before, during or after getting married.

Other than that, I think the article’s pretty good.

Post # 6
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow, I’m kinda shocked. I usually don’t read those articles because they just piss me off, but that was actually very logical and from my experience, very true.

Post # 7
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I like to logic overall, but I disagree about the long engagement part, too. My Fiance and I will have a total engagement of over two years, but not because he needed time to work out his feelings for me or because I just needed commitment.


Post # 9
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Wow, that’s a really long article! In reality, it only takes four words to get your girlfriend to stop pressuring you to commit: “Will You Marry Me”


Post # 10
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s weird, but I’ve never met anyone who was “too comfortable to commit.” I think we either want to get married, or don’t want to yet, or don’t want to, period.

But more importantly, I’m trying to figure out why this guy would publish an article trying to sell a product with so many grammatical errors in it. It takes all kinds, amirite?

Post # 11
2309 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@AmuseMeMusically: LOL!

I like articles like these that aren’t bias towards men: just got to the root of the  issue.

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