(Closed) How to tell your inlaws you are PG when they want you to wait?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: How would you tell your inlaws you were pregnant, if they told you to wait?
    Do something cute (like gift them a onesie saying something about grandma) : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Tell them upfront, no reason to hide or to make a big deal : (39 votes)
    87 %
    Let husband tell them while I'm an hour away : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Other (anything?) : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t tell them.  I didn’t tell anyone until after first trimester.  I would wait until you feel good and right about it to tell them.  No rush.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I probably wouldn’t give a crap and just tell them, but that’s because I don’t care what my ILs think but you could always wait until the 1st trimester has passed to tell them.

    I think it’s pretty crappy of them to have said that regarding you TTC, it’s sooooo far out of the realm of what they get an opinion on.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    When my parents got married her mother told my mum that she was “too young to be a grandmother” and they weren’t to have children yet. Honestly it’s none of their business, unless they have legitimate concerns. I’d personally wait till the 12 weeks if I knew there’d possibly be trouble. But I wouldn’t feel the need to uplay or downplay the news in any way, if they are fine with it then great! If they aren’t then it still wasn’t their decision to make 🙂

     

    best of luck with TTC x

    Post # 6
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    7208 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @anon656987:  My dad is SUPER Catholic. My sister got pregnant when she wasn’t married, with a guy he didn’t particularly like, right after a HUGE health scare which made pregnancy very dangerous…. and Dad was over the moon. It’s kind of ridiculous how happy he was to be a grandfather. So you never know. While she may think it’s good to wait so you have time to yourselves, she’s going to love her grandkid no matter what. Wait til 3 months but then tell her however you’d tell your own mom. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @anon656987:  I wouldnt tell anyone (besides husband) that youre pregnant until youre 12+ weeks anyways, especially with your first pregnancy. I know everyone is different, but that is just me. Anyways, I dont think you should be nervous to tell them. You’re 27 years old, not 18. Also, its none of their business! When it happens, tell them but I wouldnt worry about it until you’re actually in the situation. It could happen immediately or could take a while as everyone is different. They may have a change of heart and be thrilled. Dont stress over it! Good luck 🙂

    Post # 8
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    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @IUrebekah3RT:  +1

    You’re married adults. Who the heck cares what your in-laws think is the “right” timing?!

    i would wait until 12 weeks personally. And don’t assume the worst, most grandparents are thrilled to hear that type of news.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    I agree with PP’s and say wait until 12 weeks when you’re PG.  Have they made other remarks besides that one time?  If they’re going to “lecture” they’ll probably say something to you and your Darling Husband no matter if its a month or 5 years after marriage… 

    When friends and family in my hometown ask my Mum when Darling Husband and I gonna start poppin’ ’em out her first reaction is always “Not anytime soon!  I’m too young to be a grandma!”  But, I’m quite positive that if we were to announce we were PG, she and my Dad would be over the moon.

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