(Closed) How to thank??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would not include the “I wish you had mentioned it before” piece in your thank you note.  I certainly think it would have made more sense for them to get it to you before the wedding, but if you are writing a thank you note, it should be all positives, I think.  

Is it possible they thought is was a bride/groom statue instead of a cake topper?  Maybe you can refer to it as a “sculpture” or “statue” and thank them for the lovely piece to help you remember your day.  As for what to do with a random extra cake topper in your house, I have no idea…

Post # 5
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Maybe just leave it a little more vague, like, “Thanks for the beautiful cake topper, we only wish we had been able to use it” ?

Post # 6
1777 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just write a general thank you note with a pleasant tone.  Something like, when we opened this yesterday we were excited to have something to remember our day by and to use for our 1st year anniversary.


This way they know WHY it wasn’t used.  And they can think you will use it when you eat your slice a year from now!

Post # 7
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hey, now you have an excuse to get an anniversary cake each year!  I’m always looking for excuses for cake (but maybe that’s the pre-wedding diet talking). 🙂

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