- 4 years ago
As every weddingplanning goes, I had my own drama..firstly I didn’t want any bridesmaids at all…I wanted bridesmen! I have always had male friends and my 2 best friends are boys. However, my fiance insisted that I pick girls. After a lot if discussion I gave in and I picked my closest female friend as my first bridesmaid. But she lives in india. My 2nd bridesmaid was my friend here in dubai who got married last July and I was her bridesmaid. I did all the running around to dress fittings and planning her bachelorette….however post wedding, she lives in.indonesia. I couldn’t think of a 3rd bridesmaid when my groom suggested that I make his younger brother’s girlfriend my bridesmaid. They live in the Uk but have visited Dubai a couple of times and stayed with us and I hv taken his girlfriend on a girls night out etc. My fiance is closest to his younger brother so I thought I could agree to this to make him.happy.
I set up a fb group and introduced everyone and they all came up with a colour and style of dress they all liked. I bought their dresses, footwear, hair accessories, and earrings and had them.couriered to them. I thought it was the nice thing to do ad they.were anyways spending money yo cone to.my.destination wedding in.thailand. Then in feb, I found out that the indonesian bridesmaid of.mine has her new.marriage.on.the rocks. I immediately tried to call her.and then.email.her offering my support. She finally replied that she won’t be able to be my.bridesmaid. I understood her situation and after a while asked her to send all the bridesmaid stuff back so I could give it to.my new 3rd bridesmaid. To this she replied, ” courier is very expensive”! That’s when I lost it and told her I don’t care…. I just needed the stuff back. After all that I did for her during her own wedding and having to.find out her plans for ditching My wedding, the least she cud hv done is been.honest and.told me advance of.not making it.to the wedding, instead of pretending to.be a part of it and discussing outfits with me!
Anyways I moved on with fina. 3 bridesmaids in place. I then ask the fiance’s younger brother’s girlfriend to plan the bachelorette in thailand and she clearly says no. So I plan my own bachelorette. None of my bridesmaids except the latest.addition ( my school.friend) who lives in another country as well, asked.for her.list of duties and is making the longest.journey ever to.reach thailand. So I need your advice on how do i treat the other 2 at the.wedding. I don’t want to give them any.importance as they have not contributed at all. Infact the fiance’s younger brother has decided to get married in.September and his girlfriend has been asking me for help with her wedding planning though I’m not even.her bridesmaid. Being the good.me, I helped her with the wedding invitations supplier and finding a canapé catered in.Barnstaple while.I live in dubai. But she she didn’t even.reply with a thank.you so all requests.post that have even ignored by me.and.I.made is clear to.my.fiance that I.won’t help.
To make the bridesmaid who is being the most helpful feel special, I.am paying for her spa day. And I was planning to treat the other two justice I woukd treat the other guests without making them.feel like the wedding party. On the wedding day, they can just dress up and walk the aisle. What.do you think I should do?