Post # 1
My mom was a professional seasmstress for about 15 years while I was growing up, and even though she no longer sews professionally, she will be making my dress, my bridesmaids’ dresses, and her own dress.
My question is, how do you try on wedding dresses without feeling terrible that the salesperson won’t get the commission? Do you tell them beforehand that you’re just trying to find the dress so you can recreate it? Or do you find the perfect dress and have to act like you hate it so you can say you ‘didn’t find anything you liked’?
Post # 3
I doubt they’d be thrilled you’re copying it, so maybe say something generic like “I’m just looking for inspiration at this point, I won’t be purchasing today even if I found the perfect dress.” And then I’d make sure not to be too obnoxious/take up too much time. Go during slow times too.
My mom sews, although not as a professional seamstress, so I’ve definitely thought about this a little before, whether I’d want her to make the dress. I don’t know that she’d be able to recreate a dress I tried on from scratch, so likely we’d have to find an actual pattern of a similar dress and modify it. It wouldn’t be a perfect replica.
Post # 4
just go into any storeand talk with half truths…. Don’t lead them on, but don’t go full disclaimer on them… Tell them you are getting married and this is your first time coming in to look at dresses so you can know what dress type will fit you best, but cannot buy anything because you want to keep options open or have to talk with SO before making any final dissions …You don’t want to tell them you are going to copy one of their dresses, they may not help you or even ask you to leave (depending on the snooty-ness) so just go in, try some dresses on, but be upfront with them that today may not be the day you buy….then run home and tell mom what dress style you want and you get the dream dress, made with love, and made a lot cheaper! 🙂
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about it! There are TONS of brides who try dresses on plenty without buying.
Just try on and take pictures if they let you and have someone keep track of what you’ve been trying on.
I’ve seen brides doing that who intended on buying – they just wanted a more scientific approach to it 🙂
Post # 6
@Miss Canaras: Honestly, I don’t see the point in mentioning anything. I’d just say something like, “I’m looking for the perfect dress for my day!” and then if you find the perfect dress, say that need to take a couple of days to think about it. Even brides who intend to purchase rarely only go to one shop before they buy, and many many brides will need time to think about their dress, compare it to others, etc, even if they do find that perfect dress.
If you want to make sure that the salesperson doesn’t pressure you into buying anything, you can say something like “I want to get an idea of what I’m looking for, but can’t commit to anything today” but even that is unnecessary since no salesperson is going to assume that you will buy unless you state it outright.
Relax, have fun, and don’t feel guilty!!
Post # 7
I don’t think you have to say anything, but make sure the salon allows photos. Some places I’ve been do not allow any pictures. I know plenty of girls who have been all over to different salons without buying anything, so I don’t think you have to mention it up front!
Post # 8
Yeah, definitely go at an off time if you can, and don’t say you are looking to copy a dress! I think they would freak out.
Post # 9
Here’s what I did (and I got mine off eBay and from China!):
I wented to have a girl’s day out with my Maid/Matron of Honor. I suggested trying on dresses and she was all for it.
We went to David’s Bridal, didn’t tell them I was buying or not, and just started collecting dresses to try on. Despite finding one I’d have LOOOVED to wear (it just didn’t go with the theme and I had a problem with wearing a $500 dress only ONCE) and said I had to talk it over with my Fiance.
Oh, and despite giving them the WRONG ADDRESS ON PURPOSE, the “follow up card” still got to my parents, lol. Who then handed it to me. Let’s hear it for small areas and the mother of a former high school classmate working at the post office and remembering me. (oh yay).
Just don’t promise to buy anything and tell them you’re there to try on dresses and get an idea of what you want before actually buying anything.
Post # 10
Thank you all so much… I just didn’t want to get the salesperson’s hopes up for a commission, you know? I think the vague route is definitely the way to go… and since my mom will be shopping with me, if we find the right dress she’ll just sketch it out right there, so we won’t have to worry about pics…
Thanks again, you all made me feel a lot better!!