Post # 1
Hi hive! Not sure if anyone has posted anything like this but me and fiance will be going to visit venues soon and I am sick to my stomach. I really do not like confrontation and can be easily bullied into things. So my question is…when going to visit venues, if we decide that the place isn’t right for us, how do I politely tell them that we are not interested in their venue anymore?
I would much rather smile, nod my head, say we have to talk it over with our families, and then never call/email them back. I really do not want to do this.
It might seem like an easy question but I do not want to seem rude to these people. I have done alot of research on all 8 of the places we are scheduled to go see but naturally, I will have to tell 7 of these places that they aren’t right for us…help??
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
@mannellal:I just told them we’d think about it and get back to them. We did always think about it (at least for a few minutes), and if we wanted to book them, we got back to them. You don’t need to announce that you wouldn’t invite your friends and family there if you were paid to do it! 😉 If they ever call you later (none of them ever did), we would have told them that we went with someone else. Don’t agonize over this; it’s not important.
Post # 4
I had once ceremony venue email and ask if I was still interested. I just told them we had decided to go in another direction, and the girl was nice enough about it. I think vendors deal with rejection on a daily basis and would prefer a polite no, to just nothing. When we were looking for vendors I was always upfront about looking at others and I tried to be clear about why we chose the others. I think everyone has a different vision and , “we enjoyed meeting with you but we think X vendor fits with our wedding vision/ budget better” is an easy way to let someone down.
Post # 5
I emailed them and told them we decided to go with another vendor. I’m a wuss too. If it was a company (venue) that I didn’t have email for, I just told them when they followed up that we went with someone else. Like spaniel said, no one ever called unless we called them.
Post # 6
I always told them that we would discuss it and I would get back to them. I only got back with them when they checked with me (which was once). I think they all understand that if you want them then you would contact them.
Post # 7
Thank you guys so much! I really appreciate the advice. That does help. I guess sometimes because I focus so much on my wedding that I think that others (vendors) do too haha. Chances are, they probably would not remember me enough to think “I wonder if that couple is ever going to let me know.”
@trugem- btw, I love your icon!
Post # 8
You know, I actually had to follow up with a caterer today and she said something like that. Someone in the office had neglected to send me the last proposal and the caterer said “oh well, you know. most of the time you don’t hear back at all…”
Post # 9
We just said ‘we are going to take a few days to think it out’ and then never called them LOL. I don’t know if there is etiquette on that sort of thing but I wasn’t about to call and say ‘no’ to 20 venues.
Post # 10
I don’t know that we contacted the venues at all if we decided not to go with them. Nobody ever followed up if they just gave us a quick site tour. I think I may have emailed a couple venues, but definitely did with the photographers/DJs/rental places that we interviewed.
I usually just sent them an email thanking them for their time meeting with us, but we’d decided to go with something else.
Post # 11
After seeing venues, I thanks ed them all for their time and told them we would follow up if we decided to move ahead. That way, you haven’t left the venue hanging, even though most of them leave it up to you to call back.
Post # 12
@mannellal: lol Thank you!
Post # 13
Thanks again everyone! That makes me feel a lot better.