(Closed) how to undo a MOB mistake and then reask politely.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would send her a lovely card or call her and say OMG I have been sooo busy and I wanted to know what your rate is to make wedding cakes.  And make sure she isn’t booked.  I don’t think there is any harm or foul with this one.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

oh no!!!!

Just call “Catherine” and apologize that you’d talked about it with your mom and she blubbed it to her before you had the chance to foficially ask her. Apologize for the awkwarndess of being put on the spot and that you understand if she’s not able to do it, you figured you’d ask in a little bit, but now i guess you have to ask now.

I’m sure she’ll understand but if you wait too long she’ll be annoyed about your presumptuousness since it sounds to me like it came off you told your mom she was doing in, when in reality you just mentioned to your mom you WANTED her to do it.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@ccrane: nah if she knows your mom she probably knows she just jumped the gun out of excitement, I wouldn’t worry about it…

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mother asked a little girl to be my flower girl without asking us if we were even having any.  I was furious.  Then she told the two girls that I actually WANTED to be in the wedding that I had asked this other girl.

End result?  I now have five (!!) flower kids. For my small, low-key wedding Oh- and mom is on strict orders to keep her mouth shut.

I think your mom is probably like mine, and wants to “spread the joy.”  And if your mom is like mine, all of her friends will expect this kind of thing from her.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it, and I probably wouldn’t apologize to your (potential) cake maker for your mom’s slip of the tongue.

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