Post # 16
Neither of them actually sound like friends. Work friends are not necessarily friend friends and the one sounds like a sh*t stirrer.
As devil’s advocate on the CVS thing, I have a really hard time recognizing people outside of the context I know them or I think it might be them, but really just more focused on my task to investigate further. I’m just in my head and never expecting that people I only see at work or happy hour or church or whatever will infiltrate my “real life” while I’m out buying tampons or cold medicine. I have had people call my name repeatedly in stores and it will take me several attempts to respond because I’m so focused on my task and not expecting it even though they are right in front of me. And there are times I avoid people in stores because I’m in a bad mood or sick or in a hurry or I didn’t feel like taking a shower and decided to chance running an errand in sweats with dirty hair and no makeup and praying I don’t run into people I know. And that’s all about me, not them. Not everything about her behavior may be about you.
Post # 17
Thanks everyone for your input!
Post # 18
You might be overthinking this. Why would she even want to attend your wedding if she doesn’t even talk to you?
Post # 19
bewitched : she’s attached to Sara.
Post # 20
I wouldn’t invite either of them! If they ask about it, just say that the wedding is going to be smaller than you originally thought. In my opinion, weddings should be for your favorite people (maybe a few obligatory invites for family or something, but mostly your favorites!) You’ll want to look around and see people that you love looking back at you. Don’t waste your money and energy on a jerk, especially not on your special day.
Post # 21
I don’t think I’d invite a friend of a friend to my wedding. It’s not some spectacle, it’s a special day for the bride, groom, and family/friends. You want people there who are genuinely happy for you. If Jill and Sara are so attached, let Sara bring Jill as her plus-one. If you’re not doing plus-ones, then too bad. You don’t have to invite someone who treats you like a nobody or an afterthought to keep the co-dependent office gossip happy.
Post # 22
Honestly, if you work with these people, I would not rock the boat. If she dislikes you, she probably wont even attend. but I would really hate to see you alienate co-workers
Post # 23
Jill works for a separate department. After, my wedding I’m leaving my job and relocating to a different state.
Post # 24
I’m thinking it takes more emotional energy, for you to, not to invite her. You will worry more if they have taken offense to this, if you don’t send one. Be the bigger person, and hopefully they won’t come.