Post # 1
My engagement ring is slightly big on me. It’s a size 6 and is loose so I put a “ring snuggie” on it so that it won’t fall off. For my wedding band, I plan on getting a size 5.75. I planned for that to be slightly smaller so that it would hold my engagement ring in place. Well today, my cousin told me that the wedding band is supposed to go first so that it is “closest to my heart.” I”ve read that that’s the traditional way to wear the rings but it seems to make more sense to me to wear the engagement ring first. Thoughts? Does anyone else have this problem? I don’t want to get my engagement ring resized because I’ve heard that it ruins the setting.
Post # 3
I would double check with your jeweler to see if it does ruin the setting. I didn’t want to resize mine at first either, but ended up going along with it because I got tired of the ring turning around my finger, and I got irritated by it “shaking” whenever I moved my hand.
Post # 4
Your cousin is right. I’m not sure what you mean about ruining the setting? I had mine resized and it was completely unnoticeable.
Post # 5
It really depends on the ring on if it will ruin the setting. But as far as how it should be worn, usually the wedding finger is on the inside, but no one said you had to wear it that way. It’s not like you’re going to get thrown into wedding ring jail lol, if people ask or are confused, just say it’s more comfortable this way.
Post # 6
The wedding band is indeed supposed to go on “closest to the heart” (on the inside). Wearing two rings will still make them fit more snugly than wearing one.
You can also get a permanent sizing bridge or sizing beads soldered inside the engagement ring to make it fit tighter without actually altering the band size.
Post # 7
@smallpie: yes that’s true/common but you can do what you want! I think you have a good plan.
Post # 8
@smallpie: I’ve had my Engagement Ring sized twice and never had any problems with the setting, but mine is a solitaire so I don’t know what kind of setting you have. Despite having it resized smaller twice (it was too big to start and then I lost a bunch of weight) it is still a tad loose, mostly when my hands get cold. My jeweler actually said that the wedding ring will help it fit more snuggly though because when you have the wedding band on first and THEN the Engagement Ring it pushes it slightly up your finger, onto the squishier part between the base and the knuckle. Sure enough they were right! And then I always have the option of just wearing the wedding band if I want. So my wedding band is a 5 and my Engagement Ring is a 5.5 and together they fit perfectly. Try them on together when you go shopping then you will know whether or not it will work for you.
Post # 9
yeah, the wedding ring goes on first, but the world won’t come to and end if you wear them the other way around.
my engagement ring fit me a little loose too, but it fit better once i started wearing it with my wedding ring (both rings are the same size).
maybe wait and see how it feels once you have your wedding ring on?
Post # 10
I wear my e-ring first before my wedding band, so it’s inside. The e-ring is just waaayyyy more expensive than the wedding band so i want it more secured. lol. And no one bothers to care about how I wanna wear my rings 🙂
Post # 11
I wear my engagement ring first because we got engaged first. I don’t think of my wedding ring as any more important just because we signed some papers lol. I wear my wedding ring all the time because it’s more practical than always wearing both though.
The wedding ring police haven’t been round to tell me off yet 😉
Post # 12
I definitely agree with RiverBride13; my ring fits a lot looser at the very base of my finger because it’s narrower there, and tighter when it’s pushed up towards the knuckle. I think that if you wear the larger-sized ring lower down, it may actually spin more than if you wear them the other way around. But do whatever works for you, I don’t plan to wear my rings in the “usual” order or even on the “usual” hand! 🙂
Post # 13
Your cousin is “right” that traditionally (in the US) the wedding band goes on first. I’d have your ring resized. As long as it’s not a full eternity band or a twist band, there should be no issue. I’ve had mine resized down twice.
Post # 14
Your cousin is correct. Just get your rings sized perfectly so you don’t have to worry about anything.
Post # 15
Yes, band goes first.
Whether or not your ring will be damaged if you resize it depends on the setting. If your setting’s micropave, pave, or channel set, it could cause problems. otherwise it should be ok. If you’re not sure what kind of setting you have, post a pic and we can tell you if it might be a problem. You can also try sizing beads or similar things, since those make the ring fit smaller without requiring resizing.
one thing to keep in mind is that your engagement ring will fit more snugly when you get a wedding band, since it will sit on a thicker part of your finger. Before resizing, maybe try getting a cheap silver ring similar to the wedding band you’re considering and wear them together For a few days. If your ering’s still loose, get it resized. IF you do end up resizing, be aware that jeweler s tend to recommend rings fit REALLY snug, sometimes too snug. Don’t be surprised if the jeweler tries to push you to go half a size smaller – you’re the one wearing the ring, so go with the size YOU want.
Post # 16
Honestly, wear it however you want to.
Fiance and i will probably end up wearing our bands on our right hands. We both just agree it feels more comfortable. Just wear it however you want.
That being said, if you have to resize your ring once it should be fine.