(Closed) How To Word A Pre-Wedding Dinner RSVP Card that Guests Pay For

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Member
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@victoriapaige:  how about just sending an email to say that you and your family are going out for supper Thursday before the wedding & if anyone wants to come you would love to see them…put also that, for instance,: meals range from $15-$40 and you will need to reserve a table so would need to know ahead of time etc…I think if you make it an informal light email then that would work….if you put in on an invitation then they might think you should foot the bill……

Post # 4
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

maybe just something very simple in the invites that refer to the wedding website where you can be less formal.

we havent sent out Save-The-Date Cards yet, but I’ve been working on the website and made a page of our favorite places so that out of towners can have recommendations if they come early. Maybe you can have a similar page, but it can be worded more specifically to say “This is where the wedding party will be on Thursday, send me an email if you are interested in joining us”.

Or just email a few individuals that you feel would most like to join you and give the restaurant a low minimum estimate.

Post # 5
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Logistically wise, trying to get a bunch of people to individually pay for their meals can turn into a mathematical nightmare. Can you arrange a preset menu with the restaurant with 3-4 appetizers/mains/desserts for the people to choose from? Then send out an email stating that the wedding party will be enjoying some pre-wedding festivies at XYZ Italian place. Come hang out with them and for $?? dollars you can get a lovely 3 course meal to unwind and dust off the jetlag. If the price and menu was posted, then people can prepare and bring cash.

Post # 6
Member
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley

I agree with previous posters, a more casual e-mail or reference to the wedding website would work!

Post # 7
Member
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For my 30th birthday, I wanted to have dinner with a few friends at my favourite restaurant. However, we could not afford to foot the bill for everyone. We decided we would pay for large salads for the tables, and the wine. Everything else was up to each person or couple. We phrased it more or less like this:

“Here is the restaurant’s website. (Link), to give you an idea of menu options and prices. Everything here is awesome, and there is something for everyone’s tastebuds and budgets. Drinks and salads on us!”

It worked really well. We pre-arranged what we paid for with the restaurant, so there was no confusion. If you aren’t covering anything, just leave off the last part above.

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