Post # 1
I’m trying to decide how to address Sister BMs wedding invite.
Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man is not married, but has a child.
I am also on the fence about allowing her to bring a guest- she’s not currently in a serious relationship, and even if she gets a date, I don’t know if it will be someone I want at my wedding…. she has a bad record of dating people that Fiance and I really, really hate.
But, that being said, she’s a Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I hate the idea of refusing her a +1.
If I deny her the guest, I’ll just address it to:
Miss Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man and Family
However, if I give her a +1, how would I address that?
Miss Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man and Guest and Family
Miss Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man, Family, and Guest
Miss Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man and Guest, (next line) Niece’s name
Let me know what you think…. I would love advice on whether or not to give her a +1, as well as guide to wording it if I do give her one.
Post # 3
Actually, now that I’m looking at it, I found another person on my list that I need to know this for- my adult cousin is divorced, but has 2 children, and I don’t feel right inviting him without giving him a +1… I mean, he is nearly 40. If he wants to bring a date, I think he should be able to.
Post # 4
She’s your sister so I don’t think it’s a big deal how you address it 🙂 And I’d let her have the option of bringing a guest if you have room.
For addressing I would personally put [last name] Family + guest or Miss Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man, Family, and Guest
Post # 5
I’m having some issues with the official “etiquette” rules, which seem to fall short of actually covering all real life situations.
This is a great example of something the etiquette books don’t really cover.
Another place I don’t follow the rules:
“Nicknames” vs legal names…. If someone goes by the shortened version of their name both personally and professionally, I don’t see why I should have to use their full, legal name on the invite.
Post # 6
Just wanted to add that technically a woman over 18 is a Ms. not a Miss 🙂
Post # 7
“Miss Sister Bridesmaid or Best Man and Guest, (next line) Niece’s name”
Post # 8
Honestly, I know this isn’t propper, but I would write something like
“Ms. Sister Firstname Lastname, Miss LO Firstname Lastname, and Guest”
I know this is a lot to write, but I spend a lot of time with little kids and they always find it super cool to see their name written formally like this. It might really make her feel really important.
Post # 9
@iheartnerds: Hmmm… really? That’s sad- I would much rather be called Miss than Ms. 🙁
Post # 10
@Mrs.LemonDrop: Lol…. if my niece were older, I would do that, but she’s still itsy. She’s turning a year old 4 days after the wedding.
I’m super bummed, too, b/c we’ll be on our honeymoon during her first birthday party 🙁
Post # 11
Bridesmaid or Best Man name and Guest
Post # 12
I believe you should put your nieces name if you allow a guest or not (do not put “and family”)if it is just the two of them you should put:
Ms. Sister Bm on first line and Miss Niece on second line
If you do decide to allow a guest you would put:
Ms. Sister Bm and guest on first line and Miss Niece on second line
The same thing goes for divorced cousin…you should list the names of each person invited.
It is also best to find out the names of the guests ahead of time if possible and put the name instead of “and guest.”
Post # 13
I was told Miss is the name of an unmarried woman, Ms. is for women (like me) who keeo their last names after marriage. After some googling I see I was told incorrectly- you learn something new everyday.
Post # 14
@maureen9004:Yeah… I discussed this with my calligrapher today when I met with her, and asked her what she thought the “proper” usage of “Ms.” was.
She agreed with what I have always heard- that Miss is for younger, unmarried women, and that Ms. is for divorcees, widows, or older unmarried women, or women who didn’t take their husbands last names.
I personally prefer Miss to Ms. myself, because I have always though of Ms. as an alternative to Mrs. when Mrs. isn’t appropriate anymore.
For the most part, I the only unmarried women on my list are 25 and younger, so I just went with Miss for them. I highly doubt any of them will get offended.