Post # 1
Okay I know it is a while before I really need to sort this out, but its on my mind because we are seeing a lot of family lately and haven’t explicitly told them the wedding day situation. Our parents are helping us get the word out discreetly, but I want to be sure that when the invites are read the situation is absolutely clear.
Background: We want to have a small wedding and reception, but fiance has a BIG family that would be miffed if we didn’t include them all somehow. As a compromise we decide to invite only our parents, siblings, and grandparents to the actually ceremony (less that 20 people) and then have a reception with everyone later that day (like 2 hrs later actually). We chose this because we didn’t want a traditional ceremony with all its pomp and both of us would probably have an anxiety freak out with over 100 people staring at us all at once.
How do I word the invite to make it clear that it will only be a reception. I think everyone will know by then (many already do) that the ceremony will be earlier with just our immediate family, but I’m concerned. I don’t have any problem explaining the situation to people that may find this rude, but I also don’t want to get a “Wait, so when’s the ceremony?” all afternoon. The whole thing will be a fairly casual event as well, so invite wording doesn’t have that overly proper air.
Post # 3
I’m doing the same thing, so I know it can be tricky! I went to offbeat bride and they have a post about the topic that was very helpful. http://offbeatbride.com/2008/10/reception-only-wedding-invitations
Post # 4
Thanks artbee! I will definitely check this out!
Post # 5
I’d say something along the lines of “A reception to celebrate the marriage of Ms. and Mr. Bamboo.”
Post # 6
I agree with the above. Also, make sure you dont include anything about the ceremony and if they ask, have something ready for them.
Post # 7
We were invited to one and the invitation looked just like a wedding invitation, only it said “invite you to a reception honoring…”-everyone understood and when I read it, I honestly didn’t think anything about it except that the ceremony must be small, intimate & immediate family only. I went to another one like 2 years ago where the ceremony was at a local B&B and the reception was at the country club-they served Thanksgiving dinner (it was around the holidays) and it was lovely. I don’t think people mind and understand right away why the invite says reception.
Post # 9
I agree with liztwinz.
You could also ask your family members to say “Well, you know her – she and fiance are just so shy” when other people ask them why they aren’t invited to the big wedding or why you aren’t having a big wedding.
Post # 10
You know, the other thing you could do is reach out to someone like Mrs. Avacado and ask her how an reception invite is worded in the Morman religion since non Mormans can’t go into the church. I was invited to a reception quite a few years ago that was for a Morman couple that was worded really nicely. I can’t seem to remember what it said though.