Post # 1
I’ve read alot on here that it’s rude to say “No Boxed Gifts” or something to that effect on the invite, so we are definitely not going to do that. However, would it be ok to put something on our WEBSITE about it, and how would it best be worded? Many guests are from out of town, so word of mouth will only go so far.
We are happy just to have our friends and family with us, and don’t expect gifts, but realize many will want to give something anyways.
We live in a very expensive major metropolitan city, couldn’t possibly fit anymore items into the apartment until we get a bigger one, so cash or gift cards are by far the best thing. Any suggestions would be appreciated!
Post # 3
@hm_bride: I suggest you don’t go there.
If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t create a register. People will get the idea.
It is rude to make mention of gifts of any sort.
Post # 4
@hm_bride: Don’t mention gifts. The best you can do is is have that info circulating through the grapevine…
Post # 5
No ma’am. Don’t even think about it
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Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Just don’t. Have no registry or a small one and trust that people aren’t stupid. EVERYONE knows that everyone likes cash.
Post # 8
@hm_bride: Honestly, there is no good way of doing this.
I suggest not registering, spreading the word through family, and not putting anything refering to gifts on your website. Hopefully people will get the hint. THose who don’t will hopefully include gift reciepts.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t… Just don’t register. Really. People get the hint.
Post # 10
We also live in NYC. We didn’t register–we received 90% cash, 5% gift cards (to an interesting variety of stores, lol), and 5% gifts. If people directly asked where we were registered, we said that we weren’t expecting gifts, as we have a very small apartment. People were very generous!
Post # 11
@howsweetitis: Congrats on your recent marriage! Yes, I think we just won’t register, and it’s certainly true that the aprtment is small if anyone asks!
Thanks to all the bees for your input! I’m so glad I asked – I’ve seen the “no boxed gifts” many times on invites (to be fair, I have a lot of Indian friends, though I’m not Indian, and I gather it’s more common in Hindu circles) and thought nothing of it. I had no idea how most people perceived any mention of gift-giving as rude – I suppose I always just appreciated the guidelines.
Yay, disaster averted!
Post # 12
@hm_bride: I wish we could all be a little more straight forward! Ugh, so annoying how you have to send these secret singnals!
I’m lucky that I’m ethnically italian, so it’s tradnitional in my family to give cash.
Post # 13
Sorry, but there is no classy way to say that. I agree on just not registering and you can always rely on word of mouth via your immediate family if people ask.
Post # 14
@hm_bride: you can’t do that without looking rude. Don’t create a registry, simple as that. Since you won’t have a registry the only option is to give cash or gift cards.
Post # 15
If you don’t want gifts or care to register. Then don’t. BUT, do not mention gifts or cash at all on your wedding website. When people see that there isn’t a registry they will know you prefer cash.
Post # 16
Unfortunately, you cannot control what people will gift you….. (trust me I know…. I ended up with several vases that I have no use for)………
I would create a small registry of stuff that you really need or want. The reason I say create a small registry, is for those guests that are unable to attend a wedding. I have found that people that are unable to attend a wedding generally give a gift off the registry……