(Closed) How to word invitation when your last name isn't the family name?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just include your last name:

Mr. and Mrs. Barney Rubble

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Pebbles Ann Flintstone

to . . .


Or just avoid the issue altogether and use “Together with their parents, Bride and Groom request the pleasure . . .”

Post # 4
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had to double check but yes, we had everybody’s full name on our invite. Our wedding was split three ways as to who paid. 

Post # 5
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

First Waitingwonderland

daughter of Dad and Mom Lastname



son of his parents



Post # 6
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I had to put my last name on the invitation after I put my parents name above mine since I have a different last name from them as well.  I actually didnt even realize that you didnt do that at first lol 

Post # 7
11 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

We did first name + middle name+ last name for everybody on the invite.

Post # 8
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

According to Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette*  (lol “the Bible” on all these types of things)

The correct way to handle this is to put your Professional Name in parentheses below your “real” name (in this case, I’d say you could use your birth name for the first line)

Example from Peggy Post

Margaret Marie

(Meg Drake)


Mr Carl Louis Valentine

— — —

When it comes to Wedding Invitations, there are many formats in regards to forms of address.  Titles / No Titles, Last Names for all / Last Names for some etc.  A lot of bearing on WHO goes WHERE on a printed Invite, is dependent on WHO is paying (Bride’s Parents alone, or with the Groom’s Parents, or with the Bride & Groom, or everyone chipping in) and what type of Wedding is happening Formal vs Informal (Religious, Ceremony followed by reception, Ceremony with belated reception etc). 

IF you give me a bit more info I can certainly help you get the wording right… you can PM me the details if you don’t want to do them here for all to see.

By The Way, if you aren’t comfortable with the double name Invite, there are probably other formats that might also work for you instead.  Let me know.

Hope this helps,


The topic ‘How to word invitation when your last name isn't the family name?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors