Post # 1
So my last name isn’t the same as my parents because I changed it years ago for my work as a performer in LA – like legally changed it, so it’s for real. My parents obviously have a different name… and I’m not sure how to word an invitation? At the top it often says Mr & Mrs so and so invite to you the marriage of their daughter (first, middle), and groom (first middle last)
I’m a little concerned that if both surnames are on it, it will look weird and that lots of people who don’t know about my name will want to ask me questions about it, or they’ll assume my dad is my stepdad or all kinds of stuff…
Is there a good wording style/example for an invitation that doesn’t include both mine and my parent’s last names?
Or maybe it’s just as well so people aren’t calling my dad Mr. [stagename]… awkward. But that’ll probably happen regardless…
Post # 3
I would just include your last name:
Mr. and Mrs. Barney Rubble
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Pebbles Ann Flintstone
to . . .
Or just avoid the issue altogether and use “Together with their parents, Bride and Groom request the pleasure . . .”
Post # 4
I had to double check but yes, we had everybody’s full name on our invite. Our wedding was split three ways as to who paid.
Post # 5
daughter of Dad and Mom Lastname
son of his parents
Post # 6
I had to put my last name on the invitation after I put my parents name above mine since I have a different last name from them as well. I actually didnt even realize that you didnt do that at first lol
Post # 7
We did first name + middle name+ last name for everybody on the invite.
Post # 8
According to Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette* (lol “the Bible” on all these types of things)
The correct way to handle this is to put your Professional Name in parentheses below your “real” name (in this case, I’d say you could use your birth name for the first line)
Example from Peggy Post
Mr Carl Louis Valentine
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When it comes to Wedding Invitations, there are many formats in regards to forms of address. Titles / No Titles, Last Names for all / Last Names for some etc. A lot of bearing on WHO goes WHERE on a printed Invite, is dependent on WHO is paying (Bride’s Parents alone, or with the Groom’s Parents, or with the Bride & Groom, or everyone chipping in) and what type of Wedding is happening Formal vs Informal (Religious, Ceremony followed by reception, Ceremony with belated reception etc).
IF you give me a bit more info I can certainly help you get the wording right… you can PM me the details if you don’t want to do them here for all to see.
By The Way, if you aren’t comfortable with the double name Invite, there are probably other formats that might also work for you instead. Let me know.
Hope this helps,