(Closed) How to word invitations?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
2134 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think there is a polite way to do this. If I were invited to a wedding/reception and FH was only invited to the reception, we wouldn’t attend.


Post # 3
47449 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


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juneberries:  You will need separate invitations with different wording.

Family will receive a standard invitation to celebrate the marriage of _and _ with the reception information on the bottom left corner.

Friends will be invited to a reception to celebrate …

Reception Only Invitation Wording

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bibber:  I don’t think her intent is to divide families. It sounds like they are planning a smaller more intimate ceremony with close family only, and a larger reception to include friends.

Post # 6
47449 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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juneberries:  It’s really not clear on your draft that people are being invited to the reception only. One should never assume what someone else knows

Post # 9
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Send your family an invitation that says something along the lines of “you are invited to witness the marriage of Z and A” with location and time and the words “reception to follow at X place.”

Then for the separate reception only invites, something like “join us for dinner and dancing (or whatever your reception will have) in celebration of our marriage at X location.” That way it’s clear that it’s an invite for the reception only. 

Hope that helps! 

Post # 10
47449 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There are lots of examples available online:

Because you have shared in our lives
by your friendship and love,
we (Bride and Groom names), together with our parents
invite you to celebrate
our new life together
at our reception following
our private wedding ceremony
on Friday, 9 May 2014
at six o’clock in the evening.

The Hall of Maria Monica
Five South Bend Boulevard
St. Sebastian, Ontaro

Bride and Groom Name
will be married in a private
wedding ceremony on
Saturday, the 4th of October 2014

Please celebrate with us at our
reception following the ceremony
at six o’clock in the evening.

Harmonica Club
8710 Margo view Club Drive
Hilliard, Ohio


Liz and Alec,
together with their parents
invite you to celebrate their love and commitment
at a reception following their ceremony.

Join us for hors d’oeuvres, drinks, dessert and dancing.


Post # 11
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We are doing a tiny private ceremony also. Haven’t ordered invitations yet, but I plan to do something like, “Together with their families X and Y request the pleasure of your company at a reception celebrating their marriage, blah blah blah.” I’ll probably adjust it depending on what invitations we go with.

Post # 12
1285 posts
Bumble bee

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juneberries:  whoa, I think you were being a little rude to Bibber. She’s expressing what a lot of people might think and do as well because many people expect to see the ceremony and reception since they are there to celebrate the union of two people… And it may be offputting for people to think they weren’t important enough for your “intimate” ceremony.

However, you would definitely need to word it differently because guests will come and wonder what the hell happen to the ceremony and you’ll be like “oh, we did that part earlier” and it can be confusing and even hurtful. And on other threads of those to express wanting to do the same thing, people might perceive that you’re just inviting them to the reception for a gift. I’m not saying that you are. But these are types of thoughts that might go through your reception only guests’ heads. So you’ll have to carefully  word your invitation that it’s reception only without trying to offend people. 

Post # 14
470 posts
Helper bee

My mother did this for her second wedding. She sent out one invitation to everyone that described it as a reception celebrating their marriage, and then told immediate family members in person where the ceremony would be. Some people invited to the reception asked about the ceremony, but they totally understood.

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