(Closed) How to word invitation…when only 1 set of parents is paying..

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We used “Together with our families” to avoid all politics of who’s paying, divorced parents, etc. We just told our families rather than giving them an option, but I think they all understood the reasoning.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have yet to see an invitation where the groom’s family was listed on the invite. All my friends have had very traditional weddings (bride’s family pays) and it’s always said, “Mr. and mrs. so and so…blah blah blah….the wedding of their daughter, ABC, to 123” and whatnot.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

 

We’re in the same situation. Ours says something like “Mr & Mrs. Family are honored to request your presence at the wedding of their daughter Madison to Fiance on Saturday May . . .”

So his parents aren’t listed at all. They are generously offering to pay for our rehearsal dinner so I might their names on our rehearsal invites.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think this would fall into the category of traditional wording, as traditionally the bride’s parents paid for the wedding.

In our case, my parents are paying, but we did acknowledge The Guy’s parents as well with the following wording (but also made it clear that they weren’t hosting):

Bride’s stepdad and mum

and

Bride’s dad and stepmum

request the honour of your presence

at the joyful wedding of their daughter

Bride’s name

to

Groom’s name

                                     son of Groom’s dad and mum……

 

You can find many more options here: http://www.invitationconsultants.com/samplewording.aspx?p_subcategory=3

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d go with the traditional wording.  I’ve seen some where it says Brides Parents invit you to the marriage of their daughter, PreciousLaur19 to Groom, son of Groom’s parents.

That way they are on there, but I doubt anyone will think they are paying for the wedding.  If they are doing the traditional thing and hosting the Rehersal dinner, then those invitations would list their names as the hosts.

My situation is the opposite where his family is helping out some and mine’s helping none.  Luckily his parents are super laid back, so we’re doing, Together with our families we invit you blah blah blah.

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I like the “son of” option if you feel their names should be on it but want to make it clear that they are not paying.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was going to put together with our families but since my mom and step dad (who is walking me down the aisle and has been my father since I was very young) are the only ones who are contributing to our weddin their names were the only one on the invitation.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If your dad is hosting completely (as in, you and your Fiance are not contributing at all), you can always say:

Bride’s parents request the honor of your presence
as they celebrate the marriage of their daughter
Bride’s name
to
Groom’s name
Son of
Groom’s Parents

If you and your Fiance are also helping with the costs, just do:

Bride and groom’s name
along with their parents
Bride’s parents
groom’s parents
request the honor of your presence as they celebrate their marriage …

🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Whoever is paying is the host. So that person should be inviting the guest.

My parents paid for everything, so our invitations read “Mr & Mrs. Moderndaisys parents invite you to witness the marriage of their daughter Moderndaisy to Mr. Moderndaisy, Son of Mr. Moderndaisy’s parents”

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mom and her husband are paying the most, but my Dad also contributed some so it was extra complicated.

Mine read Mr. and Mrs. blank and blank (different last name from mine)

and

Mr. blank blank.

request the honor of presence at the marriage of

Sarah and Michael

(no grooms parents listed)

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