(Closed) How to word on registry page….

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You cannot without being rude.

You can either not register anywhere and then when people ask where you are registered you can sweetly say – oh my me and fi have so much we had no idea what to register for and then smile.  Hopefully your guests will figure out to give cash.

Or you can register with the intent of returning the items

But you cannot specifically say cash.

You can go for a travel or honeymoon registry?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think people will assume that since your registry is so small/short, you would prefer cash. I wouldn’t bother with adding a note, it’s redundant. If people ask you why there’s not more on your registry, just tell them you don’t need anything else. Most people will get the hint.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

There is no way to do that without being rude. You should have a pretty decent registry anyway because some people only want to give gifts and will not give money and will be very upset if there is nothing in their pricerange on your regisry. You just need to have your parents advice people who ask that you would appreciate cash.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Also, I always wonder what people who don’t want gifts do for showers…? Do people just sit around watch you opening cards with checks in them? I’m not trying to be snarky, I’m genuinely curious.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrsSonthebeach:  This, exactly.

Alluding to the presence OR absence of gifts at all on any sort of invitation is not appropriate.  Have your parents and FIs parents spread the word that you’re saving up for ___ (insert: house, honeymoon, etc). 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Nope, no note. Just register for a few items that you need or want to update. People will get the hint.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We have lived together for a few years and like you have most things. We are doing a smaller registry – because people will definitely want to bring a gift to a shower (not a cheque) and hopefully we will get mula for the wedding… 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t believe that people who want cash, have showers. Showers are for people who are putting together their home.

Instead, a lot of showers are instead a party for girlfriends and there aren’t gifts (or checks) given to the bride.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@PinkMagnolia:  Gotcha. I was just curious. If I had a friend who didn’t want home goods, I would probably throw her a theme shower, like “bring your favorite bottle of wine”, or “bring a recipe”, but I was wondering what other people would do.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@prncss47:  I think it’s still inappropriate even on a website. I think the closest you can get is a honeymoon registry.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

FWIW, OP, Fiance and I lived on our own and together for a long time before he popped the question. I spent about two weeks going through our things and making notes before we did the registry, and I was really surprised at how many replacements we needed (esp. bed and bath linens) and there were several items we decided to upgrade or that we had put off buying for ourselves. That might help you flesh out your list a bit more if you’re worried about it being thin.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

As pps have noted, there is no polite manner in which to make reference to gifts of any kind, including the absence of them. It is acceptable for couples to register for household gift items, and it’s acceptable for couples to provide links to their wedding registries in a non-prominant location on their wedding websites. However, you really cannot make any reference whatsoever beyond that.

Darling Husband and I are both in our 40s, and we each owned our own homes when we married. However, I still found a number of wonderful items for which to register. This is your one opportunity to register for things like new towels, a down comforter, formal china, flatware, small appliances, etc. 🙂

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