Post # 1

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Newbee
Hello hive!
We are not using inner envelopes, and now I seem to be perplexed as to how to word the outer envelope! I would ask what is considered to be etiquette, but it seems we have thrown etiquette out the window without an inner envelope!
Should I just address "Mr. So And So and guest"? Or would it be okay if they see on the RSVP card that "we have reserved 2 seats in your name"?
Thanks for your help!
Lynzee
Post # 3

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Worker bee
We didn’t do "and guest". Instead, we addressed it with only the person’s name on it and included a response card that allowed them to state how many attendees would join us. It seemed to work well for us 🙂
Post # 4

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Worker bee
We did not use an outer envelope either. We addressed it either to the couple, family, or the person invited and then indicated on the response card "we have reserved 2 (or 1 or 3…etc) seats in your name"
It has worked thus far…
Post # 5

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Blushing bee
Oh good questions, I have the same problem. I was going to write and guest. Is this against ettiquette rules?
Post # 6

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Bumble bee
We didn’t use inner envelopes either, but we only had a few "and guest" needs in our situation. We did find out which of our guests would be bringing someone and who that person would likely be. This is easiest, of course, when you’re close to those guests and if there aren’t too many. If the couple doesn’t live together, just list them on separate lines (because one person wouldn’t be living at that address!).
For the exceptions, we left room on the response card to indicate who is coming. This was also easy because we printed them at home and could put "Suzy Q and guest" on the cards.
If there’s no other viable option, I think it’s okay to put "and guest" on the outer envelope.
Post # 7

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Newbee
Thank you for posting your responses!!!
I think we’ll just address the outer envelope to the invited guest, and then write on the RSVP card that we’ve reserved 2 seats in their name. This way it might alleviate those extra added guests. Well, hopefully!!!
Thanks again!