Post # 1
Ok, so we’re leaving our parents names off the invitations, but I’m designing our wedding website and I figured I would include our parents names in the “About Us” section.
I’m trying to word it similarly to what you would see in a newspaper announcement.
Problem is, FI’s parents are divorced, and his step-mom and mom have the same first and last name.
This is how I’m trying to word it, but idk if there is a better way.
All the names have been changed
“FI grew up in Someplace, Somewhere, and is the son of Mary A. Smith and Tom and Mary B. Smith.”
How would you word it?
Post # 3
I would maybe put it as “Mr. and Mrs. Tom Smith and Mary B. Smith” (assuming Mary B. Smith is his biological Mom and not Mary A. Smith).
Post # 4
Woah, tough situation!
I have two thoughts, not sure if they’re grammatically correct, just that they would help me read it more clearly.
1) Ms. versus Mrs.
2) a comma separating the two “sets” of parents
so “…son of Ms. Mary A. Smith, and Mr. and Mrs. Tom and Mary B. Smith”
I do like including middle initials as well, or, if they’re both comfortable you could even consider adding a “nee [maiden name]” to each of their names (I couldn’t figure out how to put an accent in, sorry!)
Post # 5
I would put “he is the son of Ms. Mary B. Smith and Mr. and Mrs. Tom Smith.” I think by putting the biological mother first, it’s a little clearer what the biological relationship is. I may be the only one who reads into it that closely though.
Post # 6
I have the same problem. In the end, I think I’m going with “Together with their parents” or just my parents… There is some good advice in the thread!
Post # 7
I agree with eva!
“…the son of Ms. Mary A. Smith and Mr. & Mrs. Tom Smith” Everyone is covered without any confusion! 🙂 What an odd situation though!
Post # 8
Hhhmm. I would really call a place that is upscale and does wedding invitations. They should know the proper wording etiquette on this one.
But here is my opinion.
I like the use of [nee]. I assume the Mary’s have the same last name because his mom never changed her name after the divorce and the new wife took his last name as well.
First let me say that it is very respectful of you to include the step-mom. I suppose it matters little if she is a new comer or has been w/him forever. It’s sticky.
So, with that in mind here is what I think. Bottom line is that it all dpends on who raised him. If his mom, then he should ask her if she’s OK w/this wording. If not, the dad should give him the check off.
Groom’s mother, Mary [nee] Smith is from Town State; his dad Tom and his wife, Mary [nee} Smith are from OR if Groom doesn’t like that wording he can say: Groom’s mother, Mary [nee] Smith is from Town State; his dad Tom and his step-mother, Mary [nee} Smith are from
I think you are sensitive not to include names in the invitation and your choice of “Together with their parents” is excellent. However, your quandry is w/the interent website. Maybe my idea would work for you.
Print out all the options we give you and look at it in black and white. Make a choice. Sleep on it. The next day revisit it. It is easier to see things printed than to hypothetically envision it.
Post # 9
Omg there are more of us out there! DH’s mom and stepmom have the same first name and it’s so weird! So we call his mom by a short form (let’s pretend her name is Christine) Chris, and then his stepmom we call Christine. That’s how we wrote it in our program and on our website. To avoid family politics we used “Together with our families” on the invites.
Post # 10
that is so awkward! i’m surprised his mom didn’t change her name back to her maiden name knowing that her husband’s new wife has the exact same name!