(Closed) How to word "the wedding is off" in an email?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry this is happening, but you (or your mother) need to call each guest individually.  I’d be miffed if I didn’t even rate a call after being out money for flights purchased specifically for your wedding.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Please wait before you do/say/send anything.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 The wording that  @canarydiamond:   used is perfect. If possible, I would reach out to your Mom/sister/best friend to send the notifications and field the inevitable questions. That’s not something you need to deal with right now. I’ve done that for a friend before, and I know it took a lot of the pressure off her.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@abbie017:  Just curious – would you still be miffed if you received an email and then maybe a couple weeks later a follow-up phone call? I’m just wondering because I know after my last breakup (and we weren’t even getting married) I was just too devastated to talk to anyone… I can’t imagine having to call people up and explain the situation. I’d just be a mess. I think I would understand if I received an email and then some sort of follow-up apology later on once the initial shock wore off. It would be so awkward having to talk to the bride while she’s weeping down the phone. Crappy situation all around 🙁

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@canarydiamond:  To be honest, yes, I would be.  In this case, a signficiant amount of money was spent (flights) and those guests deserve a verbal apology/explanation (not the gory details or anything, just that the wedding is off for “personal reasons” or something vague) for the cancellation.  If the bride isn’t able to do this (which I understand), the mothers should be calling each guest personally.

 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@abbie017:  Yeah, that makes sense. I think I’d be a bit miffed but at the same time I’d also be super worried about the bride. Hopefully the mom will help out with this!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@BrideToBe14:  I dont really know how to word it but I just wanted you to know that I just said a little prayer for you and your hurting heart. Hang in there sweetie.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsBuesleBee:  LOL couldn’t have said it better myself! I agree, short and sweet.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I worry a little that phrasing like “due to unforeseen circumstances, the wedding has been canceled” will raise a lot of questions about what the circumstances are and/or will is be rescheduled etc…It just leaves it very open to interpretation. If I got that I might think anything from you broke it off to your venue burned down and you need time to find a new place.

I think maybe something along the lines of “We regret to inform you that the wedding of Bride & Groom will no longer be taking place” might be a little more clear?

That or I would just ask I close family member (Mom) to call everyone and tell them. That way a quick explanation can be added which will hopefully avoid all those questions coming to you right away.

So sorry for this difficult time you’re going through..

 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: ...

@BrideToBe14:  Your wording or the wording suggested by PPs sounds fine, but I really think you should let your mom or someone else do it! As someone who went through a broken engagement (and luckily did not have to call guests), letting my family members spread the news saved me a lot of pain.

It also might be better to start making phone calls since your wedding was so soon. Again, I would really let family and friends do that instead! Good luck, I’m so sorry.

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