(Closed) How to word this on our invites – ‘heavy apps’

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hors d’oeuvres, Dessert, Drinks and Dancing to Follow might be a little too wordy.. Maybe just Hors d’oeuvres Reception to Follow would suffice? But that may lead guests to think light hors d’oeuvres, not heavy… I don’t know…

Post # 4
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Hors d’oeuvres Reception to Follow would be a great way to phrase it. Even if they eat dinner beforehand, they probably wont be too full to have some of your delicious appetizers. There is always room for apps 🙂 Or maybe I just like food a little too much…

Post # 6
4485 posts
Honey bee

Honestly, I would call it dinner since that is what it is, just in a different presentation. Some people will read ‘heavy appetizers” or hors d’oeurves and still insist that you will be starving them, even with a massive spread of food, hence eating before they leave so that your food and money goes to waste. A heavy appetizers reception actually does offer twice as much, if not more, food than a regular plated meal but most don’t realize or care.

Post # 7
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think I would say “light” hors d’oeuvres reception to follow, just so that people get the idea that they’re not going to be a three course meal, so they can eat dinner before hand if they need to People tend to misunderstand things, and I just think that makes it more clear, even if they are heavy hors d’oeuvres.

Post # 8
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are also doing heavy hors d’oeuvres – but just saying Reception to Follow on our invites. I agree with Ember78 – the food will be enough to satisfy as a regular dinner. So no need to call it out as anything different.

Post # 10
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

We had the same kind of reception and just  said ‘reception immediately following’…..what kinds of food are on your menu? We had passed hot and cold apps, a huge seafood buffet, pasta station and meat carving stations with caesar salad,antipasto, breads and dessert buffet plus the wedding cake. We had tons of food,and even tho technically not ‘dinner’, no one went hungry.

Post # 11
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

we had this kind of reception.  we put “cocktail and hors duerves reception to immediately follow”.  we wanted people to know there would be no plated meal and have a chance to eat dinner before coming (our ceremony started at 8 pm).

i think your wording sounds fine.  as long as you alert people some how not to expect a full meal, then you are good.  some people may fill up on 2-4 apps, but others will be iritated if they didnt know to eat before hand

Post # 12
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would say hors d’oeuvres reception to follow. People who are bigger eaters will probably eat something ahead of time, and will be thankful they knew to do so, so they aren’t hungry during the reception. Others will just show up and will probably be filled with the food you are having. But I think saying a dinner reception to follow might be misleading to some who would be expecting a seated meal.

Post # 13
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, I am having a cocktail buffet, what some would consider very heavy hor d’oeuvres maybe.  However, we are having carved meat ,plus two other meats and several other items, so on my invite I just put dinner and dancing and on my website I wrote that it’s a cocktail buffet.  I seriously didn’t have enough room on my reception card without making it too wordy.  No one will be starving. 

Post # 14
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

You can use the phrase, “Light reception, drinks and dancing to follow”.

Post # 15
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Sometimes it’s referred to as a “strolling dinner”, if table seating won’t be available.

Post # 16
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

“Hors d’oeuvres & drinks to follow.”  It is important not be misleading for 2 reasons: 1) Guests need to eat dinner beforehand & 2) If you don’t word the invite correctly, guests WILL expect dinner.  -I think the word reception implies dinner.

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