(Closed) how to word this?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you give an example of the scenario?? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am such a walking ball of etiquette nightmare- this EXACT same thing happened to me:

My aunt was married, divorced, and remarried but she retained her maiden name. So she’s a (random example) Leslie Smith-Klein.  Her husband is a Klein.  Her children are all ‘Williams’ from her first husband.  I said eff it and just said ‘The Smith Family’  They can not come if I offend them that badly over it- I dgaF!  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

send 3 invites?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would put each name on a separate line:

Ms. Kelly Kapowski

Ms. Jessica Spano

Ms. Lisa Turtle

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agreed with murmur:   In this situation, you would send three invitations to the same address. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Kenic315:  This is what I did. I didn’t get that many invites so I only sent one per household.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’d be interested to know this.  We have a family member, in a relationship but not married.  Between them they have 5 children.  In totally they have 4 different surnames.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Kenic315:  LOL to those examples

(That’s what I would do, too.)

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Kenic315:  I second this. No reason to send three different invitations to the same household, that just seems wasteful. Just make it clear on the envelope you are including all three people.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ladyartichoke:  For this, I would send it to Mrs. smith and mr. Jones and family.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sending 3 invites sounds like an enormous waste of trees, money, and time just in the name of “proper etiquette” … but what do I know, I’m a hippie  😛

In a similar circumstance, I labeled the envelopes for the Save The Dates “Saved By The Bell” style, haha

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I am going to assume that the three last names belong to a married couple  (or unmarried-but-cohabiting-as-equivalent-to-married — it would be prurient, and hence rude, to pry into such a delicate personal matter) and their minor child. For room-mates and adult relatives you send separate invitations, not “in the name of etiquette” but in the name of respecting other adults as having their own social lives independent of their parents, and treating them like grown-ups and lot like children.

For married couples (or equivalent to married) you put both names on one line with the word “and” between, gentleman first. Children regardless of surname go on the next line:

Mr Earp and Ms Phipps

Miss Black

 

Or, if little Susan Black has an elder sister somewhere whoalso bears the Black surname,

Mr Earp and Ms Phipps

Miss Susan

 

 

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