Post # 1
So here’s me. I am short. I’m not super obese but i’m plump lol. My upper body has always bothered me even when I was young and SKINNY. I always felt fat because of my wide shoulders and rib cage. I could be skinny sideways but from the front I was wide. Anyway, I’m just thinking about when I go in for tailoring and accessories for my dress what I should look for. Certain necklines? Those little jacket things? Strapless?
In my experience anything I did to try and minimize the upper body area just seemed to emphasize it but again I was self-conscious about it. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
The most important thing to do is balance with a wider hem at the bottom – don’t make the mistake of trying to go slim-line on your dress to slim down the look, but instead try things that are cinched in at the waist and at least as wide as your shoulders at the bottom (a-line, or even ballgown).
Basic spaghetti straps or square or scoop necklines can emphasize wide shoulders. You’re better off with halter-style straps, or anything that makes a diagonal, like Queen Anne or Vee. A “little jacket thing” :), called a bolero or shrug, could be a great idea.
Post # 4
I’m built like a linebacker and had a very hard time finding a bolero that worked. No joke – I probably ordered 8 or 9 before I found the right one.
anything that fit my arms was too big in the rib area, etc.
I ended up going with a stretchy lace bolero and it’s perfect
Post # 5
Yess! So helpful. And it only took me 4 months to find this follow up Woops! The dress is with the seamstress now. She’s doing the boning and stuff and we’ll figure out neckline when I go in next.
We did talk about neckline a little because i said I thought sweetheart was usually flattering and she said “OH NO!!”LOL…but she was right. What I thought was sweetheart was the queen anne style/halter like you have above, so a sweetheart neckline but with diaganol straps…but just saying sweetheart meant no straps and she said that would be bad for my broad shoulders lol. So at the very least she seems to get what I’m worried about.
@GroovyHippieChick: For reals! I haven’t bought one but even cardigans are a pain…darn these shoulders. I think I would have quite a cute frame if I weren’t so broad shouldered. But then again, my hubby thinks I’m cute so whatevs :]
Post # 6
@ProfessorGirl: I’ve also recently found out that “jewel” necklines like on sheath dresses are actually very flattering on me. I picked one up and was like no way it will look right because of the neckline and tried it on and fell in love. I got a similar shaped dress for my engagement party, rehearsal dinner, and after reception party dress. But I don’t want a neck hugger during my outdoor ceremony :0)
Post # 7
Just realized I posted this in “Jewish.” I flagged so hopefully a mod will move!