Post # 1
Hi y’all. So Fiance and I’s journey to the altar wasn’t as smooth as most of the other wedding stories I read. We dated for 2.5 years long distance before taking a year long break during which we remained friends but saw other people. We had broken up because we’d been talking marriage at the time and it had sparked some big talks (about religious differences and career paths) that had Fiance reconsider our relationship. However we used that time to draw nearer to the Lord and grow up as people, and the Lord brought us back together again. When we got back together, everyone was really happy – our families included – because they all said they always thought we’d end up together and were just putting off then inevitable by being apart. Even new friends who didn’t know we’d broken up thought we basically belonged together. Basically everyone saw this except Fiance and I until the Lord let us.
SO. Here’s my problem: Writing my “Our story” for our website is now a bit awkward. I don’t really feel like explaining the year long break but it’s hard to ignore to other people as well. Has anyone else had this issue and how did you write your “Our story” if you did?
Post # 2
Were you friends during that time?
“After 2.5 years of long distance joe and Jane took a year to focus on career goals and to strengthen their friendship after which they decided to build a future together.”
Post # 3
lynnctobe : My aunt and uncle dated in college broke up for a bit and got back together. I personally don’t think you need to go into too much detail about it. Saying something like “their lives took them on different paths for a bit but then of course brought them back together.” I’m not sure. But I think that most people who already know you know the story and people who don’t know you that well won’t judge.
Post # 4
I have sort of an untraditional wedding story. I honestly just didn’t write a wedding story haha. On our wedding website I just added a thank you section to thank our guests where the “wedding story” traditionally goes…I never really read the wedding/engagement/relationship stories anyways personally, so I didn’t even think not to have it.
Post # 5
I think you can write basically what you did above: you took the time do grow your careers, learn about yourselves and grow stronger in your faith. No sense in trying to gloss it over, anyone who has known you for a while will know about the break. It’s an important part of your story.
Congrats on your engagement.
Post # 6
You don’t *need* to have your wedding story on your website. FI and I don’t. We met online and prefer not to advertise the fact. If you’re worried about how it will read, skip it. The great thing about weddings in 2017 is that few things are mandatory anymore 🙂
Post # 7
First off, you don’t have to write a wedding story. It is not a requirement.
But if you really want to, there are a few ways you could go about it:
a) Be humorous. Something like “FI and I were both idiots for awhile and went our separate ways…but luckily we soon got a grip and reunited, stronger than ever….”
b) don’t mention the break at all. why does it matter? Just talk about how you met and share a few things you love about each other
c) Tell the whole story in a very earnest way…emphasizing how the Lord put you on this path that had some difficult twists and turns but you always found your way back to each other bla bla bla
Post # 8
I would just sort of gloss over it. People who know you know the full story anyway – so you don’t need a long explaination.
Something like “We started dating in 2010, but after some time apart, we got serious about our relationship in 2015, and in June 2016 Mark proposed on a beautiful beach surrounded by a 21 piece orchestra that was playing ‘I got you babe’ while he stood on his head juggling flaming batons’ … that sort of thing.
Thr important part is that you found each other in the end… the path you took doesn’t really matter.
Post # 9
FWIW.. I didn’t write an “our story”, and I’ve never read one.
If you see a suggestion you like, and really want an “our story” section, by all means. Just saying, you have permission to scrap it all together and no one will even know.
Post # 10
The reason your wedding story isn’t as smooth as the others you have read is: theirs aren’t that smooth either.
Be your own press agent and write the story with the good parts punched up, and the rough parts glossed over. You don’t have to hang out your dirty laundry.
Post # 11
grapefruithero : Seconding the fact that you don’t *need* to put your story on your website if you don’t want to. You can do “how we met” or “how we got engaged” stories without putting the whole relationship if you want, also. It seems like more than half the wedding websites I’ve seen in the last year or so didn’t include them.
Post # 12
I have a similar problem! We dated for 5 years, broke up for a year and have been back together for 2 years now. Whenever I think about writing an “our story” I get conflicted. I want to have a cute chalkboard with the dates, but I feel like if I don’t include the break people will know and think we’re lying or hiding it. I think I’ve decided I’m not going to write a story on our website and for the chalkboard I’m going to keep it short and simple and just put: “the first date, the yes date, the best date”. Those are the important dates anyway.
Post # 13
Don’t even include it. My hubby and I had a NASTY breakup when we were dating (but close to engagement). When we were writing our story down the road, we just did the traditional ‘shes from here and does this, hes from here and does this, they met this way, he proposed this way, they enjoy xyz people/places/things together.’ Sweet, simple, to the point, and easily glosses over any bumps 🙂
Post # 15
I didn’t write one on mine. Our story is actually pretty funny, but I figure someone will tell the gist of it in a speech, and if not I don’t really care. It seems to me like sometimes those ‘our story’ things try to transform day to day life into a fairytale, which really isn’t necessary. Or at least it’s not my style. I don’t have anything to prove to other people with why i think we’re meant to be together. Real life is amazing enough, we don’t need to gloss it over with something we think would be an acceptable plot for a romcom.