How to write a wedding story if we took a break?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Helper bee

lynnctobe :  I would gloss over it (or not mention it) and focus on the positive parts of your relationship. It seems like everyone who is close to you already knows these details of your story, and if people aren’t that close to you then they really don’t have to know. No one’s relationship is perfect, and there is nothing shameful about taking time to grow in your careers and faith, but I personally wouldn’t advertise it on the wedding website.

Maybe you can gloss over it by saying something like, “After 3.5 years of long distance and taking time to grow in their faith and careers, Jane and John decided to take the next step in their relationship together…etc.”

Post # 17
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Busy bee

I don’t think anyone has a smooth straightforward story. For better or worse can start long before the wedding vows. You both went different directions for a bit but ended up back on the same path together, You don’t have to gloss over t but I don’t see that it needs to be a big issue in your story either.

Post # 18
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Helper bee

I feel you OP because my Fiance and me had an very nasty break up a year ago. He did it where we both work so our colleagues saw the whole thing. Then a friends wedding was the next day so I showed up without him, so I had to tell all them the full story as well. Worst is that the bride had not wanted to invite him, but I pressured her in to it as we lived together. I am embarrassed even doing the ceremony and vows because of this. I feel like hearing talk about love etc, everyone is just remembering me leaving work sobbing, or sitting next to an empty place at the wedding, and thinking what a joke. I am going to make sure the celebrant doesn’t mention about “their wonderful relationship grew over time” or whatever.

Our past is our past and we can’t change it. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

lynnctobe :  Honestly, I don’t know if you really have to mention it. I just read one of this girl I knew in high school, and she laid out all the gory details.
“As romances tend to do, it fizzled out and Chris decided to break up with Lydia. They were apart for sixteen months, which they used to date other people. They eventually got back together.”

CRINGE.
A year isn’t very long, you could probably gloss over it. 🙂

 

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

jimonabee89 :  damn.  If she was gonna go into that much detail she should’ve added “Lydia had way more sex with way hotter guys while they were apart, and Chris realized he’d actually dumped someone who was way above him and regretted it so much and after much begging Lydia finally took him back.” lolol

Post # 21
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Busy bee

lynnctobe :  “over time they grew as individuals but the Lord always brought them together.” I wouldn’t get into the nitty gritty just so high level grow as individuals

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would just not put a story there. I don’t think any of the pps wording has been any less cringey, but not saying anything would be weird and kind of lying. I’d just leave it out and focus on the fact that youre getting married. Leave the past in the past.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had a break REALLY early on that lasted almost 5 months. I always include it in our story because deciding to end things when I did probably saved us, and allowed us to be together in the end. Not a nasty break up at all, just a parting of ways due to both of us not fully dealing with toxic exes who were lingering. We both value that time that we were apart because it strengthened what we were able to bring when we finally did reconnect. It’s always been part of our story, and is proof that we were strong enough to overcome it. Married 6 months now 🙂

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