How to write thank you cards

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
47188 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

honeybee69 :  Word it the same as you do thank you notes for other gifts- birthday, Christmas etc. Thank them for the gift.Mention specifically what it was and how you plan to use it. Tell them you look forward to celebrating with them at the wedding.

For cash gifts, thank them for their generous gift and mention how you plan to use it.

There are lots of examples online:

Easy Wedding Thank You Card Wording Templates


Post # 3
6806 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

They don’t have to be uber personal. It’s not like your guests are going to compare notes. I used a simple script: 

“Thank you so much for ______! We can’t wait to use it! It was great seeing you at the shower. I hope you had a good time. Looking forward to celebrating with you at our wedding! Thanks again! Love, _______”

Post # 4
4495 posts
Honey bee

Dear so-and-so,

It was wonderful catching up with you at the shower.  Thank you so much for the X.  Soon-to-be Husband and I are so looking forward to doing Y (with the X you gave us).  Look forward to seeing you soon.



Where X is the thing they bought you and Y is something great about that thing.  I’m so excited to finally have a matching set of towels and donate our old ones.  Can’t wait to have a lazy Sunday in and make waffles with this wonderful new waffle maker you got us.  Can’t wait to get our wedding photos back and use this gorgeous frame you got us.  Etc.

3-4 sentences max.

Post # 5
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I referenced this ALL the time when writing thank you cards.  Just as a starting point to help you word your sentiments.

Image result for wedding thank you note writing template

Post # 8
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018- Stan Hywet Gardens

These are the templates we are using:

Physical gift

Dear XXX,

Thank you for coming to our wedding! We were so happy to receive [the gift], and we look forward to [using it for years to come, having it brighten our home for years to come, cherishing it as a beautiful wedding memento, make toast with it, etc].

With love,

Harry + Ginny 


Monetary gift  

Harry and I are so grateful for your generous gift. We one step closer to the completely furnishing our home/ looking forward to adding it to our honeymoon fund/ truly appreciate your support as we start our lives together. It was so wonderful to have you celebrate alongside us at the wedding.

With love,

Harry + Ginny 


No gift

Thank you so much for attending our wedding! We wanted to take a moment to send you the warmest well wishes and let you know how happy we were to see you there.

With love,

Harry + Ginny 


Gift – no attendance  

We are so sorry you weren’t able to make it to our wedding. We wanted to make sure we let you know how much we love your gift, and we thank you for sending it. We can’t wait to use it for XXX!

With gratitude,

Harry + Ginny 

Post # 9
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Thank you notes, especially to the level needed for a wedding, can be SO daunting. What I did was type out each note in a Google Doc before I actually started to write anything down. That way it was easy to see that it was long or short enough to fit the note, etc. Plus I could copy and paste wording from others and mix and match for different scenarios (physical gift v. cash gift, came to the wedding v. missing the wedding). 

You can use the templates other bees have given you- they’re great! One wording I used for those who couldn’t make it to the wedding was something like, “we’re so sorry that you couldn’t make it to celebrate with us, but we know you were there in spirit!”

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