(Closed) How was your valentines day, and did you get engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Not engaged but I knew it wouldn’t happen yet.

We went for brunch and he did mention how he was excited to give me a ring soon and asked some questions about a ring we had seen recently. Later on I cooked him a steak dinner and we drank lots of wine and champagne. He gets very mushy when he’s drunk and kept calling me his future wife and things like that. We exchanged some little gifts, including a book where you fill in what you love about each other, we actually accidentally bought it for each other and even filled out several of the answers the same. It was cute and fun and some of his answers were really amazing. All in all it was a great day! 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

To the girls upset that they didn’t get engaged on Valentine’s Day, BE GLAD!!!!! You’re future husband wants to get engaged to you on a day that’s YOURS and no one elses. Of course no offence to anyone that did (sorry) but I think it’s so nice when it’s a surprise and NOT on a holiday that you’re sharing with a million other people. That’s just me! I also hate when people plan weddings on holidays (went to one last night) and it’s like ok, I’m happy for you and your hubs but like I want to spend it with MY husband, not with you and your grandparents lol

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY

relishdead:  That’s a little rude, don’t you think? Most people would say that, since you love your SO so much, it wouldn’t really matter when/how they proposed, only that they are willing to spend the rest of their lives with you. 

This forum always makes me LOL when it comes to people who are so particular about the days they can or cannot be proposed to. It’s special whatever day your SO chooses, and I just get a bit more ticked off everytime I see someone else belittling someone else’s engagement for any reason. Especially a stupid one like the date.

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Nope, thankfully! SO and I spent the day hiking on some really beautiful trails, made some yummy dinner together with some really good red wine that he found (I usually hate red wine) and then watched a movie and laid out. Oh, and I ate all of the chocolate he got me…there was a lot…you girls would either be impressed, or disgusted!

My friends called early this morning, asking if he proposed. I get these calls on almost every holiday, and they’re irritating, at best. I’m only 21, and SO is only turning 22. We won’t be graduating for another year, and I have no desire to see a ring for at least another two years. So successful Valentine’s day because I WASN’T proposed to 😉

Post # 20
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Busy bee

I had a wonderful Valentine’s, no proposal but I am not expecting that until the summer! We relaxed, ate donuts and chocolate, spent lots of time in bed, chose a wine together (really cute, his idea), went to a restaurant with fantastic food whose decor was so stuck in the 80s (we are both late 80s babies and loved that), have each other silly/cute/sweet cards, talked about our relationship over dinner, drank our wine and went to bed in a happy haze. It was my favorite Valentine’s so far!!

yourhandinmine:  Totally understand. I have friends and family who are WAY more set on me getting engaged ASAP than I am, lol.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

No proposal, but that is okay with me. He straight up told me the day he proposes isn’t going to fall on any holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. So that leaves a ton of days hahaha

Post # 22
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Helper bee

My SO had to work until 5 pm and then be back at work by 4:45 am this morning.  So we went to a local brewery and tried their Valentine’s Day specials and then went for a pizza.  After that we came home and went to bed .  We opted to NOT buy gifts for each other, but he is helping me pick up and move my new couch I bought and that’s a perfect gift for me.  No engagement yet, but he asked me Friday if I still have forever in my sights.  

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I technically got engaged for Valentine’s daY! The only difference is, we celebrated early! (January 31st!  So while it Valentine’s day it’s also our day!!  

 

I I also don’t give a rats butt what holiday it is. I just want to marry the love of my life 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

jellybellie:  Yeah. Cranky and half-cut after a long ass day at work. Soz guys. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

Eh, valentines, schmalentines. He didn’t propose, but I wasn’t expecting it.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Horrible.  Ladies, what would you do in this situation?

 

This was our first V-Day together.  I wasn’t expecting a proposal, but I was expecting a nice evening out.  I never had a SO celebrate V-Day before, and when I told him this, he joked that he was “old fashioned like that” and usually got flowers, chocolates, etc — over a month ago, he told me he made reservations at a really nice restaurant in town. I was so excited.  We had plans to see a comedy show after, too.   

Ladies, I’ve been looking forward to this day for WEEKS.

Well, yesterday rolls around and we head over to a friends house in the middle of the day for a few drinks — it ended up that the show was postponed to a later date (due to weather) — so SO asked me if we could move our reservations to later in the evening given that we weren’t going to the show.  So I called the place and had our reservations changed to later. 

SO got drunk and passed out — and we ended up missing dinner.   He left me alone with his friends at his friend’s apartment.  

At around 11pm, he still wasn’t awake, so I made sure he was OK then I drove his car back home because there was a parking ban and he would have got towed.

I cried and cried and cried so hard.  It surprised me, because I thought I was just angry — but I was really upset.  

The thing is – I wouldn’t have cared had he not built it up — then he just let me down.  I’m thinking back now, and SO didn’t have any plans for my birthday…. and got me a last minute gift on Christmas Eve (I was even there when he got it and he wrapped it in front of me!)

…. ladies, my mother is THOROUGHLY unimpressed with him at this point, and I’m starting to lose patience, too.   When he got home last night,  I told him I deserved so much better.   What’s worse is there was nothing else.  I went out and bought myself chocolates today, which is super depressing.  He told me last night “I was going to get you a card.. to tell you how much I love you, but you know I’m just not good at that stuff.” 

He just ordered pizza hut and is eating it in bed.  He doesn’t seem to care that I’ve been so upset all day. 

What would you do???? 

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  zippy85.
Post # 27
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Sugar bee

zippy85:  I would let loose on his ass…. After building up Valentines day for you like that and then disappointing you SO BADLY… Yeah, I would be livid.

We did absolutely nothing on V-day but I don’t mind, you know why? Because he didn’t say he was going to spoil me rotten and then let me down!

 

Post # 28
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Helper bee

zippy85:  If he’s like this now he likely won’t change. If this is something really important to you then I would suggest finding a better mate who would be ready, willing, and HAPPY to fulfill those desires. Make it known how you feel and take a step back, maybe that will light a fire that he needs to try harder to keep you since you’re not happy. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  racr335.
Post # 29
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Helper bee

zippy85:  I would feel so disappointed, that he’s not putting care and effort into making these occasions special (since he knows you like them…) and he’s not following through on his word at all. I would be really hesitant to trust or rely on him 🙁 I’m sorry that happened to you.

Post # 30
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Busy bee

I didn’t get engaged. Thank goodness I took the SIUP or I may have let myself slip my disappointment. I appreciate the chance to have my own day, it doesn’t matter much to me either way honestly, it’s just tough to go through every holiday, which I see as “easier opportunities” and have it keep not happening. But we went about an hour away to the town we went to college to to have dinner at one of our favorite restaurants, played video game, exchanged gifts. It was a good day, just no proposal. 

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