Post # 1
Hi Bees! My significant other and I went to get my ring size at a jeweler in April and he bought a ring in June! We’re very open with each other and he has told me he has the ring and wants the proposal to be a surprise. I am so excited! So my question to all you bees, how did you feel while you were waiting for a proposal?
Post # 2
radiancebee : Anxious and excited but also really at peace. It took me a long time to meet “the one” for me and I was 34.5 when he proposed. I had some bad relationships and a failed engagement and with my now husband I just knew he was the one. It was fun to know he felt the same and was just as excited as I was to start our life together.
Im also SUPER impatient and I knew the weekend he would likely propose. So waiting those couple of months was soooo long… but worth it!
Post # 3
After a really great conversation about our future and plans to cohabitate, we decided to go ring shopping. We found the stone and I designed the ring at the end of January 2018. I knew he wasn’t going to propose for a few months, but knowing that he had the ring was all that mattered.
I was really excited to be officially engaged, but I also felt completely at peace during the time i had to wait. And then one day, he asked me if I wanted to wear the ring and the rest is history.
Post # 4
We started looking at rings probably only a few months into dating. But his goal was to get a promise ring first. So it was a dainty diamond ring.
He proposed aroudn 2.5 years into the relationship. I would say I was hoping he would by the one year mark lol. So I was antsy and always worried in the back of my mind that he would be wasting my time like SOOO many men did for over a decade. But he didn’t It was stressful for me due to my past experiences.
Post # 5
I am so glad that you all are in wonderful relationships and happy! Thank you for sharing your waiting stories. I hope more bees post!
Post # 6
radiancebee : excited, interested in how the process worked to make the ring (he wouldn’t share at the time but told me later), antsy once I knew it had arrived. Then frustrated and unhappy as opportunity after opportunity rolled by without the proposal. Took him over half a year to ask and then because I put my foot down. Life’s not perfect, and neither was he, but in the end that wasn’t enough to wreck our future, thank goodness!
Post # 7
It was short! He’s bad at waiting for things that he wants, haha. The ring arrived and I think he managed to hold onto it for an hour before giving it to me. He was so jittery and it was painfully obvious what was going on.
Post # 8
Technically still waiting, but… So far, it has been full of ups and down! Good days and deffffinitely bad days. However, it’s all worth it because in a few short months I’ll be able to let the world know that I’m going to be marrying the man of my dreams. (Now if only I could remind myself of that on the bad days…)
Currently, I’m in that ‘we’ve looked at rings and he has contacted the jeweler, but hasn’t yet placed the order’ phase – order will likely be placed this week, 7-8 week turnaround time. It’s pretty tough for me to let go of control (I’m very type A and lead the majority of the planning in our lives), so this stage has been tough where I just want to say “what’s the hold up?!? every day you don’t order it is one more day we aren’t engaged!!” Buttttt, this is just how he rolls – he thinks everything through in detail and takes quite a long time to make decisions and commit to things. I just keep reminding myself that I’m lucky to have someone who wants to get it just right and cares enough to make sure everything is “perfect” before going forward with it!
Post # 9
When we were both ready we picked out the stone and ring together and when he was ready he went back on his own unbeknownst to me and surprised me with a proposal! I was excited and little anxious but it was perfect and I basically just hung back and was patient. I didnt Harp on it at all and let it come naturally with no pressure.
Post # 10
My waiting period was awful. One of the lowest points I’ve been at mentally. It all worked out, but dang, it sucked.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
I didn’t wait. I proposed first (at his request). He proposed to me a week later. We said anytime in 2019 was game so I did it in March (on St. paddy’s day incidentally). I thought he’d make me wait until closer to fall.
We decided summer of 2018 that we’d get engaged in 2019. It was fun planning for it and teasing eachother about our secret plans. We always had open dialogue about engagement and other steps. I was confident he’d come through and he did!
Post # 12
It was exciting and excruciating at the same time… I’m glad I’m engaged and don’t have to wait and wonder anymore! I only had to really wait from March to May. But we started looking at rings in October.
Post # 13
It was an exciting time for me. We looked at rings together one summer with the plan to get engaged at least by the following summer. He didn’t give me an exact date or anything, but I knew it would be after I finished up my Masters program more than likely. He ended up proposing on a completely random day a few months earlier than I expected.
Post # 14
It was the opposite for us. He was the one that had to wait. I was the one who wanted to be sure. He woke up one morning after we had lived together for a year (at my insistence as I wanted to see all his ups and downs and habits etc) and realised he just couldn’t wait any longer and proposed.
Post # 15
- Wedding: December 2100 - City, State
I’m somewhat ambivalent about the whole idea of waiting. My SO and I mutually agreed to wait until we were both in the position to say I do before getting engaged. She had enlisted in the Marines right before we met and began dating, and we wanted to wait until after she finished her term of active duty and went IRR to move where we want, get engaged and begin planning our wedding. She finishes her active duty term in October, and we’ll likely be engaged at the four and a half year mark from when we started dating and likely married sometime in 2020.
We’ve been waiting for a year and a half since we formally agreed that someday soon, we’d plan to marry and that is fine. Two years isn’t so big a deal to us. We have forever. Having some time for just us without Uncle Sam calling the shots is ideal.