Post # 1
Let me begin by saying that I love this site. Many of you have helped me indirectly with the great advice u give to others and responding to my post as well. That being said sometimes I feel like a dud bride on here bc ppl r way far ahead of me that I feel like I am being lazy. And also I don’t care about some of the details that others do care about. For example I don’t have specific flowers I want. I just want my options in front of me and choose from them. I am planning this myself. Please tell me I’m not crazy and other ppl feel the same way.
Post # 3
It’s okay to not care about anything!
In fact if all you care about is getting married to your love, that’s totally fine, no details needed.
I know what you mean about feeling pressure to DO IT ALL though.
Post # 5
@sunnywoods: NOT crazy. I felt the same way when I was wedding planning.
Post # 9
I was the exact same way. All I cared about was marrying Darling Husband that day. I also am a very laid back person and an optimist and I knew everything would work out great that day. I had so many other people stressed out (my boss was going crazy!) because I wasn’t stressed. It was a really nice spot to be! And our day went off without a hitch and I wasn’t crazy . It was perfect!
Post # 4
It’s fine as long as you don’t compare yourself to the other weddings – borrow some ideas yes but as long as you get to marry you Fiance the rest of the stuff is just filler 🙂 Occasionally I get a little “oh I haven’t got…” then realise I don’t actually want or need the object in question 🙂
Post # 6
I didn’t care one bit about flowers or colors for that matter. What’s super important to you might not to all… so, don’t feel crazy! 🙂
Post # 7
Hey, you’re not lazy! It’s normal not to give a crap about all of the details. There are plenty of things that I just don’t give a crap about that everyone else is always obsessing over (like rings). I’ll admit, it’d be a lot easier if someone gave me three options for everything and I just had to pick from those three things.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
The best part about the bee is that people pretty much support the styles and opinions of other brides here. I have never felt competitive here…thought I just wrote about feeling old today. I’m 34 and sometimes feel as though I’m not youthful and gorgeous enough for wedding photos.
My point is that we all go through phases of self-doubt.
Post # 10
I love how there are different style weddings. Being from a different culture I found a lot of things I didn’t know about american/british/canadian weddings and altough I’m not doing most of this things I came to love learning about them. I’m pf the idea of not following a tradition if you don’t at least know where it come from si the Bees pretty useful.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2012 - Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro
Don’t stress out too much! Everyone is in different places with their planning and motivation on this site. You still have plenty of time. We had a 9-month engagement, and we are doing just fine. 🙂
Post # 12
To all pps: thank god other ppl feel the same way to. Sometimes I get a lot of pressure from my bridesmaids to care about the details. And they bombard me with things I haven’t even thought about it…and not in a helpful way. My Maid/Matron of Honor is the worst, she is very anxious and panicky in her life in general but she talks about my planning n wedding in the same fashion and I really get stressed out.
Post # 13
@sunnywoods: I heard this quote in a movie: The wedding is about other people, the marriage’s for the couple.When you walk down the aisle you won’t care about the flowers, the color or the details, you’d only care about is the person waiting for you.
I kind of disagree with this cause the wedding’s about us, but the idea behind it is cute.
Post # 14
You’re not crazy at all! I feel like everybody does a ton of DIY things (I know that’s not the case, it’s popular right now) and I’m not going to be.
Post # 15
It’s so normal to feel this way but don’t let it get you down! It is YOUR wedding and the way you plan it and execute details won’t match anyone else. So long as you are happy with the way things are going, that is all that matters. It is hard not to compare ourselves to each other when there are so many creative and inspiring people sharing their ideas! I had a guilt trip over not caring about ceremony programs when other bees were producing really amazing and detailed products. You will move past that and focus on what is most important to you. Your October wedding will be perfect!
Post # 16
I sometimes felt like a lazy bride when I came on the bee. I would see all they DIY’s that everyone was doing, all the events, all the different party dresses and I would get a feeling of I have to do it all. But really you only need to do what is important to you. I had a list of things I was going to do and as time got closer I just crossed off the least important ones if I didn’t have time and didn’t stress about it.
The guests aren’t going to miss the little details unless they are wedding crazy!