Post # 17
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Wannabee
Thanks for the feedback everyone! Still leaning toward the idea of a lowkey night out beforehand and organizing a beach weekend later in the summer.
@Payless, @This Time Round, @Capuccino, I’m going to plan my own bachelorette whether it’s before or after the wedding because I’m a control freak and my friends know that and are fine with it. I know plenty of people who’ve planned their own. Having a beach weekend also won’t really cost my friends anything because it’s at my family’s beach house and no one has to fly anywhere. My fiance actually likes the idea of having his bachelor party after the wedding too, as he also wants to do a weekend away over the summer. We are both fine with having separate friend trips, we don’t need to be joined at the hip. We’ll still do a honeymoon after the wedding and spend at least a few weeks together before we would have the bach weekends.
Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
@Apple_Blossom: +1
If you want to have a girls weekend after the wedding – go for it! I just don’t understand why it would be called a bachelorette party. The meaning of bachelorette is “an unmarried woman“… but you’d be married. Truthfully, I find it weird.
Post # 19
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Are you and this other friend who is getting married close? Why not plan a joint – pre wedding – bachelorette party? If you do plan something after the wedding I definitely wouldn’t market it as a bachelorette party, because it doesn’t make sense.
Post # 20
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Busy bee
You can certainly plan a girls weekend at the beach, but a bachelorette is kind of thrown in your honor. I think it would be weird to have it after the wedding.
Post # 21
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Bumble bee
After you’re married, it’s not a bachelorette party, it’s a girls’ night out.
Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@colormegreen: The weekend after my wedding, I did not want to do a damn thing. The thing is incredibly exhausting, both emotionally and physically, and organizing (or even going along on) a big exursion would literally be the last thing I wanted to do. Just a perspective you might not have considered….
A big friend excursion a month or two later would be fun though!
Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
@colormegreen: definitely strange… settle for something less elaborate to have your bachelorette (a joint one with your friend is ag reat idea!) and just have a girls weekend some other time later in the summer… it will be fun to recap both weddings and etc anyway.
Post # 24
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Bumble bee
@colormegreen: You can plan a girls’ weekend later on in the summer….sounds fun….but it isn’t a bachelorette party. Why can’t you just call it a fun friends / girls wknd?
Post # 25
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Sugar bee
@colormegreen: Make it a girl’s weekend in August. I’d not make plans the weekend after my wedding unless it was my honeymoon.
Post # 26
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Bumble bee
after you’re both married, technically, it won’t be your bachelorette anymore. I would call it a girl’s night
Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
Weird, because you’re not a bachelorette anymore. But nothing wrong with just having a girls weekend.
Post # 28
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Wannabee
@lolot: right, this wouldn’t be anywhere near after the wedding, more like a month or two later
Post # 29
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Sugar bee
Yeah, I agree with the PPs. Just go on a girls trip later in the summer. Don’t necessarily make it about yourself, just have fun with you all. Plus, then you can invite only your very bests, and not have to worry about the other girls who would be invited to a bachelorette.
Post # 30
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Sugar bee
It’s weird. Don’t do it. It makes no sense.