(Closed) How well do you get along with your FMIL?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do you feel about your FMIL?
    Love her, like a second mom : (59 votes)
    36 %
    Like her but she can get on my nerves : (65 votes)
    40 %
    We don't get along at all : (20 votes)
    12 %
    Other? Explain : (19 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t have issues really, she is a lovely lady and I usually enjoy spending time with her. We aren’t super close and I would never consider her a second mother or anything like that but I consider myself lucky that we get along well. She can get on my nerves though, especially when she does something quite different to how my own family would do something (e.g. at a small party she had for our engagement she announced to everyone that the champagne was very expensive – I find that unnecessary and awkward but his family is a lot more open about money than mine). I really feel for the people with nightmare in laws, it must be horrible!!

    Post # 4
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Just a different perspective-

    Love mine, she is like a really good friend.  She does re-arrange things in our house, but usually in a good way.  I have zero design sense, and her ideas usually work better.  Sometimes they don’t, so we just change it back.  I figure she has much more experience at making a house work than I do, so I usually take what works from her advice.  She has so much energy though- she is always doing something, and I just can’t keep up!  

    My IL’s stayed at our house for a few days after the wedding while we were on the honeymoon, and we came back to a sparkling clean house!  It was really nice to have someone help us out during such a crazy time.  We are still finding things that she worked on- I don’t know how she had the energy after all the craziness of the wedding.

    Post # 5
    336 posts
    Helper bee

    Love, love, love her. She’s amazing!

    Post # 6
    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My Future Mother-In-Law & I are so close.  We go out together, and she comes into town to go out to lunch with me and chat.  My FI’s parents live about 2 hours away from me, so I’ll go and stay with them for a weekend and lay around and watch movies with his mama. I love her.

    Post # 7
    3539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Voted Other: I dont actually have anything to do with her . Have only seen her a few times she lives in a differant city.

    Post # 9
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    love her! She’s my east coast mom

    Post # 10
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    So glad to see that a lot of girls seem to get along with the Future Mother-In-Law. I can live through you bees!


    Post # 11
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’re actually closer than my mom and I are a lot of times, although my mom hasn’t been too bad lately. There were definitely some times in my late teens that my Future Mother-In-Law stepped up when I really needed it, and she & Future Father-In-Law have truly made me part of the family. 

    We do argue about certain things (she’s really opinionated) so religion, etc, can sometimes be an issue, but no relationship is perfect. 

    Post # 12
    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We used to get along really well; I considered her a second mother.  We would lunch, go shopping, she would cook for me……and then Fiance and I got engaged.


    Needless to say, things are not the same

    Post # 13
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We get along super well and I expect we will continue to grow closer, but they live in a different state so I don’t see her much.

    Post # 14
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I love my Future Mother-In-Law… couldn’t have asked for a better one.  🙂

    Post # 15
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am putting “Other”, because I honestly have no feelings about the woman.

    We have talked for about 10 minutes total in the entire three years that Joe and I have dated. One time Joe was bowling, and  she came and picked me up when my alternator belt snapped on the highway right by his parents house. It was SUPER AWKWARD. Oh my god. It was terrible.

    At that point we had been dating like 1.5 years, and she said to me “You know, everyone thought that Joe and [Ex’s Name] were going to get married.” Like, totally effin’ randomly. WHAT? Thanks lady.

    Honestly, I think I just kind of freak her out, because I am an tall, American indian hipster girl from the city, and she’s a short little blond cheerleader from the suburbs.

    Post # 16
    22 posts
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Love her to death. Like the mom I never had. She even threw me my bridal shower because she knew I don’t have family here and except for Maid/Matron of Honor everyone I know is pretty much from out-of-state.

    She’s by no means a perfect human being, but she is gosh darn nice to me!

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