Post # 1
How well do you get along with your FMIL? What kind of relationship do you have with her and do you think a positive relationship with your Future Mother-In-Law is important?
Personally, I get along pretty well with my Future Mother-In-Law. We had some growing pains, like I know she would like it if we were even closer, but where we are now is pretty good. She does annoy me sometimes because she is super extroverted, but in general I know that she means well and we get along great. One thing that has surprised me during the planning process is how our relationship has grown. She has been a lot more supportive of me and Fiance than my own parents which means a lot to me.
I forget who told me this, but I think it was great advice. I was told early on when I got engaged that the best thing that I could do was try to get along with my Future Mother-In-Law and I’m very glad I took the advice. I am fortunate that she is not tough to get along with though!
Post # 3
She thinks we get along great, but this is bc I mostly keep my mouth shut around her and do not tell her when she is being a huge B. We do not get along.
Post # 4
We get along better than “good” but we aren’t BFF, probably b/c we live 30 min away. She doesn’t annoy me or bug me (in fact, i was at a family wedding and guffawed about an inappropriate dress someone was wearing and she laughed and elbowed SIL and said “we’re tacky like that, too!” haha). We feel the same about a lot of topics and she’s really considerate so I can’t complain! Now, DH’s extended family? They can jump on my last nerve.
Post # 5
i really love my fmil and consider myself sooo grateful for that! she is always very supportive and has good intentions for us. she writes me cute emails from time to time and always makes me feel great:)
Post # 6
We’re kinda meh. We get along, but I wouldn’t say we are close. In fact, she disliked me for the majority of our relationship and only starting sucking it up when she accepted the fact that Fiance and I are getting married and she’s stuck with me for life LoL. We don’t fight or anything, but I don’t call her to chat or make plans with her unless I feel obligated.
Post # 7
I really like my Future Mother-In-Law, she’s nice and thoughtful. She does get on my nerves when I spend extended time (like over 3 or 4 days) with her. But that’s because she lives far away and doesn’t get to see us often so when she does see us she is constantly up our butts and super clingy. But otherwise we get along great! We swap recipes by email constantly because we both like to cook!
Post # 8
I would say we get along very well, but we’re not close. A large reason for this (I feel) is the language barrier–her first language is Russian and while she understands English and can speak it fine, she is obviously more comfortable speaking Russian and she is not confident in her own ability to speak English.
It actually makes me really sad, because she is such a sweet woman and I really really want to have a close, more than superficial relationship with her. I think it’ll take time, and practice on both our parts.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I would get a long a lot better with my Future Mother-In-Law if she wasn’t CRAZY! It kind of sucks, our relationship has become much more strained bc of the wedding planning, I used to like her a lot more before she planned the Rehearsal Dinner and after-wedding brunch with complete disregard to what we wanted or would have liked…But the good news is she doesn’t really know this and thinks we get along great, which is all that matters!
Post # 10
We get along pretty well. We don’t always see eye to eye on things, but she’s nice and means well.
Post # 11
I posted something about this a few weeks ago! Me & Future Mother-In-Law get along fine…she’s kind of weird sometimes..& even Fiance agrees that she’s changing a little bit & has gotten a little weird. But she means well & we chat a good bit when we see each other, but we are not best friends by any means! 🙂
Post # 12
Lol stlginkgo I was going to say pretty much the same thing! If that lady only knew what I really thought about her! But I pretty much stay quiet about it because I just don’t think it’s worth the over all drama.
Post # 13
I like my mil a lot. She’s the complete opposite of my own mom. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom but she can be high maintenence at times… and she tends to make people uncomfortable without even trying. My mil on the other hand is very laid back and easy going. We get along great.
Post # 14
My Fiance is not very close with his mom (parents are divorced) but she’s always kind to me whenever we see her.
Post # 15
We have next to nothing in common so conversations are awkward, but she’s nice enough.
Post # 16
I used to get along great with FI’s parents but all of that started to change after got engaged. I know they love me and are happy Fiance and I are getting married (which is what matters most) but they don’t get why the wedding is such a big deal/why it is black tie/why my parents are spending so much money etc. and it comes across as detached and disinterested, which really hurts my feelings. I also got a passive aggressive email from FI’s mom yesterday morning, so that re-opened hurt feelings on my end. I am also just incredibly different from FI’s mom – girlie, outgoing, very social, like fashion, etc. and I think she is amused, if not a little annoyed, that Fiance chose someone so different from her.
My new strategy is to keep myself surrounded by all (and there are many) family and friends who ARE excited about the wedding, and keep Future In-Laws roles limited to only what is required. What else can you do? I certainly don’t want their bad outlook to spoil my next few months.