(Closed) How well do you know your photographer?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: How well do you know your photographer?
    They're a close friend/family, so very well : (10 votes)
    9 %
    We're friendly, but not FRIENDS : (40 votes)
    37 %
    Strictly a business relationship : (52 votes)
    48 %
    Other (explain in comments if you want!) : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 18
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m very lucky that our wedding photographer is actually a really good friend of mine from work. We are both teachers, but she has a photography business with her husband.  She will be doing engagement and wedding pictures for us.  I’m not photogenic at all and usually feel pretty awkward when I’m getting pictures taken, so I think I’ll feel a lot more comfortable and relaxed having my friend taking our pictures instead of a relative stranger.

    To be honest, I don’t know too many friends or relatives who were super buddy-buddy with their photographers, except those who’ve had my friend take their pictures.  However, a lot of photographers are willing to meet with you beforehand to get to know you, get a feel for your style, etc. Maybe you could contact her and ask to meet up in person to go over the details of your wedding and what you’re hoping for? I have friends who met up with their photographers at a coffee shop or something simple just to get to know each other better and go over “must-have” photos and whatnot.  I think my photographer said she typically meets with clients about a 3-4 weeks beforehand to iron out final details. 

    Whether you get that warm and fuzzy recap or not, I’m sure your photos will be beautiful and will hopefully capture all the memories of your big day! 🙂

    Post # 19
    Member
    5063 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I know our photographer very well. She’s a friend I consider as family. We are so blessed she could photograph our wedding. 

    Post # 20
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    5474 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted ‘other’ because we are more than just friendly, but we’re not like SUPER close either.  I met her through a friend of a friend, and she did our engagement photos, wedding photos, maternity, birth, and newborn photos as well.  I absolutely adore her as a person, and as a photographer.  I feel like I may have had a stronger connection to her since we have mutual friends, and I’ve known her for several years.

    Post # 21
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    321 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Strictly business. My photographer seemed like a really nice person, but definitely wasn’t interested in being friends or having any kind of personal relationship. Like you, I always feel bad when I see her recaps where she talks about how wonderful or awesome the couple is, or how much she is looking forward to a particular wedding. 

    Post # 22
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    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I didn’t know our photographer at all before booking her, but I think her personality kind of came through on her website so I could tell we’d get along. And we have, meeting up with her the first time was great and we just did our engagement pictures – it was really fun actually. I was so worried we’d be uncomfortable in front of the camera with basically a stranger directing us, but we were completely at ease with her. I’m really looking forward to the wedding and I think she’ll be a blast following is around on the day of. Bonus that she loves cats, and my cat will definitely be around while we’re getting ready at home that morning. I want some pictures with that handsome little guy. 

    Post # 23
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    9752 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    Very well, my aunt and uncle will be doing our photography 🙂

    Post # 24
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    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    Well, we did go to her wedding…  But she invited just about all of her past clients!  I wouldn’t say we’re besties or really that good of friends, she’s just naturally so outgoing that it’s hard to not want to be her friend.  I saw her at a bridal show and she was so excited to see me, and was telling everyone that she is shooting our wedding, and basically made me feel important!  Plus we had a bunch of “small world moments” – Her wife/second shooter is my husband’s former roommate’s sister and she shot our good friend’s wedding a few years ago.  Now we’ve recommended her to a couple of friends, and plan to use her if we ever need more photos.  

    Post # 25
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    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I have known my photographer for years. In fact to be perfectly honest when we met many years ago we went on a few dates before mutually realizing we were totally uncompatible as a couple but stayed on good terms. He has since gotten engaged almost at the same time as me, we remained acquaintances that would occasionally chat online and I knew he is an awesome photographer…..but as soon as I hired him as the photographer (by the way he didn’t cut me any deals what-so-ever and I paid the most for his services of all the vendors) he became the most awfull person to deal with. He caused me more stress than all other vendors combined.

    He started to want to charge for everything like staying an extra 15 mins at the wedding even though he promised to be there all day. When my friends asked him for a full rez jpeg photo to make an englargement for my wedding shower (surprise gift) he refused unless they paid him $150 for a single image even though I was already supposed to get full rez images. He promised to let us do a photo montage but when I asked him to change what time he does it during the wedding he said he woun’t accomidate and that we have to rent our own projector….in other words don’t think your “friends” always make good vendors.

    Post # 26
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    4823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Friendly but not friends.  Our worlds overlap, so we see each other around.  

    edited to add that did not influence our choice of them as photographers.  Their work is outstanding.  

    Post # 27
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I become friends with the majority of my clients. Most of them add me as a friend on facebook after the engagement session or wedding, and text me throughout the wedding process filling me in on exciting things, after the wedding they hire me to shoot their maternity, then newborn and so fourth. So it’s a mix between friendship and business usually. As for writing things about their weddings etc, I usually pick my favourite things about the couple or the day and briefly write about them. I’m sure if I didn’t for a couple, they’d come on here and say ‘my photographer has nothing but nice things to say about other couples, and wrote nothing for me!’, haha. That being said, I genuinely like the couples I shoot, I feel that’s quite important for me. If I don’t mesh well with a couple, it won’t be as good of an experience for either parties. I’ve had couples come for consultations where the bride was SUPER mean to the groom, and I’ve turned the bookings down. If I hadn’t, I’d have to write ‘boy **** had really nice hair. The end’. But yes, everything I write is 100% genuine. I love my clients.

    As for my OWN wedding photographer, I’ve only heard her speak at a wedding photographers conference (yep, those exsist haha). She is extremely loveable and came highly highly recommended. As for whether we’ll be friends, I’d say it’s most likely since we’re in the same industry.

    Post # 28
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    1037 posts
    Bumble bee

    My photographer was a complete stranger, I found her website after searching on WeddingWire.com. (I live in CA but am having my wedding in my hometown in NY.) When I was home visiting this summer, I had a visit with my photographer, to meet her and talk about details, and it felt like we were best friends. We sat and talked for over 2 hours! So, while she wasn’t my friend to begin with, she’s definitely my friend now. 🙂

    Post # 29
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    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We are friendly, but not friends with ours. They are super fun, great people which is important to me.

    Actually, that “overly familiar” blog thing turned us off some potential photographers because we are just not that kind of people. I nearly broke out in a rash thinking about someone using the words “their sweet love” or something on a blog post. 

    We went with photographers who are not into blogging. They do, but not every wedding and not with all that flowery language. That’s not the reason we chose them, but I can’t lie it was a very small selling point.

    Post # 30
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’ve known her since we were 15 years old and whilst we are friendly. we’re more acquaintances than friends. It means that we’re familiar with each other and I can trust her based on our history and since we’re not close friends, I don’t have to worry as much about our ties interfering with the business relationship.

    Post # 31
    Member
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Just to note. As a photographer what I say on my bog is real. I do love my couples 99% of the time and some venues I AM SO looking forward photographing at.

    If I didnt ‘like’ my couple I would just maybe post some photos and keep it short if you know what I mean.

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