Post # 1
**This is not a thread to judge on how parents punished their children. Please do not make judgements.**
At work we were talking about how our parents used to punish us when we were younger. Everyone’s stories were different. It got me thinking…
DH and I were raised totally opposite. His parents don’t believe in punishment. He was never grounded, spanked, talked to, nada.
I on the other hand have had punishments. I’ve gotten the belt, spanking with a hand, sent to bed without dinner, grounded, phone taken away, chores galore, and my all time favorite…holding soup cans with my arms straight out in front of me or to the sides of me for minutes on end.
How were you punished as a kid/teen?
Post # 3
I was never punished and never spanked.
Post # 4
Mostly time outs or being grounded. My brother had to do pushups when he teased me. We were good kids though, we didn’t get in trouble a lot.
Post # 5
Grounded occasionally as a teen, had my car taken away once. I can remember being put into my room alone once as a kid, so I guess I wasn’t punished much as a small child, lol.
Post # 6
i got spanked when i was very young and only when i did something really bad.
when i got older my punishments were groundings, toys/games taken away, no tv, no phone, etc. plus, i got a long lecture.
Post # 7
@figgnewton: My experiences were similar to yours, from the sounds of it. (except for the soup cans! That sounds awful!)
My FI was horrified when I told him my brother and I used to get spanked. I was like, “really, doesn’t everybody get spanked?” Guess not. I’d never raise my kids like that, but I didn’t think it was quite as rare as he implied!
Post # 8
Big Daddy never raised a hand or his voice to me, ever..but if I did something wrong, he’d sit me down and give me a talking to the likes of which I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy…he’d just make you feel so god damned bad for screwing up and telling you how disappointed he was and on and on and on….by the time he was done working you over you would have confessed to the assasination of Abraham Lincoln to make it stop…and even though he never told me, “You’re Grounded” …I always kind of grounded myself after those lectures because I felt like I shouldn’t go out when I was such an abysmal failure and shame to my parents.
Post # 9
I was occasionally spanked (open hand on the butt) as a kid when I was doing something particularly dumb. I got scoldings and lectures as a teenager.
Post # 10
@MrsSnowMountain: Haha I used to think all kids were spanked too! Oh the soup cans were worse then groundings or a spankin’. I got muscles though :p
Post # 11
@figgnewton: grounded, had things taken away, spanked when I was very young (not beaten), and when I was a teen they wouldn’t let me go out.
Post # 12
@Nona99: There was one time when I was 17, I had done something really bad and all my dad had to say was “I’m really hurt and dissapointed in you.” My whole world felt like it was caving in. Just those couple of words can sting more then anything.
Post # 13
@figgnewton: Spanked for especially awful things and pretty much just when I was littler, grounded for other things and more as I got into my teen years, with extra chores thrown in there as well. I remember for lying about ym grades I was forced to drop marching band, which was huuuge for me back then. Aaand once I recall being made to do pushups.
I’m pretty sure I’ll be a similar type of discipliner with my future kids.
Post # 14
I was a goody two shoes that was rarely in trouble. I think I got grounded as a teen once, though. LOL. Kind of sad, haha.
Post # 15
@crayfish: Haha that was totally my sister. I used to look at her and wonder how she could be so good!
Post # 16
I was a really good kid in general so I was never really punished. I was such a smartass though and it irked my mother to no end. She’d yell at me and threaten things like, “I’m cancelling our vacation!” (LOL) but not much else. I’m sure she would have taken my car away, but I bought and paid for it myself so 😛
My mother is totally the type that would have had uber strict punishments if I had ever started getting into trouble though. I think a lot of why I didn’t push any boundaries is because I was aware of her wrath.
I don’t think my FI has ever been punished. He’s from a tiny little town in Iowa that is so picture perfect and idyllic. He is like the all american guy that grew up playing baseball and having great manners. I will definitely be the ‘mean’ parent when it comes to discipline – he is such a softie.