Post # 1
I’ve been struggling a little bit trying to decide when I should tell my boss that I’m pregnant. Luckily, I haven’t had much morning sickness so far, but I have had a couple of dizzy spells. I figured that if the morning sickness kicks in, I would have to let her know, so she wouldn’t think I’m just flaking out on my job. I wouldn’t say that I have the best relationship with my boss, I just kind of keep to myself, do my job, and go home. I work with quite a few.. “butt kissers” that she seems to favor over me as it is. I’m kind of afraid that she will treat me differently once she finds out. However, I will be leaving as I get close to my due date, and I won’t be returning to my job after having the baby. For that, I feel like she needs to know sooner rather than later, so she can find another employee. At the same time, I don’t want her treat me worse once she knows I won’t be there too much longer.
How did you break the news to your boss? How long did you wait?
Post # 3
I would tell them you are pregnant around 15 weeks when most of your co-workers will start to figure it out anyways. But don’t tell them you are not returning after the baby. Wait until you maternity leave nears and then provide them with a 2 weeks notice.
Post # 4
@roweboat: I told my boss the day I found out- we are close. I was then absorbed onto a new team and told my new boss at 10w. He is my age and we went to college together and he is just kind of a family guy– I knew he was going to be thrilled. Just today he told me I can schedule things for December if I want, but he understands if I need to pass them off to other team members based on how I am feeling.
If I didn’t have a great relationship, I would wait and wait until it was necessary. 15 or 20w or if you have a lot of appts or start showing. No rush.
Post # 5
I’m not telling my boss until I’m out of my first trimester, she would have zero sympathy for me anyway even though she has 5 kids of her own. So far I have been able to manage my MS well enough to not have to miss work, carrying snacks with me, wearing anti nausea sea-bands, eating ginger gum, sucking on mints, etc… The only reason I would tell her earlier is if I start getting extremely sick but until then I’m not saying a word.
I don’t think it’s necessary to drop the bomb before you even know if you will have issues with nausea, also even if you aren’t planning to come back, if you tell them at 15 weeks you still have 6 months go to, that is plenty of time to find someone to fill your spot.
Post # 6
@roxy821: I won’t actually get any paid maternity leave, and we aren’t really sure yet of how long I’m going to be working, so I’ll just have to play it by ear.
@mamadingdong: I have my first appointment in a couple weeks, so I know I’ll be having more appointments after that, and I figured I’d have to tell them as they get more frequent. It’s hard keeping it to myself, though!
@MsJ2theZ: I think once I tell her I’m pregnant, I’ll probably wait before telling her I’m not coming back. Otherwise, I think I will be treated differently :-
Post # 7
Tell her you’re pregnant but don’t say you’re not coming back. You don’t have to tell her that, especially since you’re not getting pd maternity leave.
Post # 8
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I told my “superior” at 13 weeks and waited until 16 weeks to tell my boss. That convo was about my leave. I agree with others– do not tell her right away that you won’t return. Wait until you are certain, have a plan and are later in pregnancy to tell her. There’s no reason to have an even more awkward 7-9 months!