(Closed) How wide should my wedding band be?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
748 posts
Busy bee

8 to 10mm is pretty wide, especially for a traditional woman’s wedding band. Usually jewelry stores market 2mm or 3mm for women (not saying that’s what you should consider or anything).

So you don’t have an engagement ring? I’d say go to a jewelry store and try on a few sizes of plain bands. To me personally it seems really wide, but it’s your personal choice and what looks best to you!

Post # 4
28 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am going with 10mm, but this is really wide, basically just a huge chunk of gold 🙂

But I’m with you on wanting it to be super noticable. Most men’s are typically like 6mm for a normal width stand alone band as a comparison.

Post # 5
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

8 or 10mm seems like overkill to me. Even if I planned to wear my band without my e-ring, I don’t think I’d go more than 3 – 4mm. But I like dainty rings. It’s all a matter of preference. Definitely take the time to try rings in different widths before you decide.

Post # 6
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

8-10mm seems like a lot. My engagement ring’s band is 2mm and I’m looking at 2mm wedding bands. i’ve tried on two bands, one on either side of my engagement ring so 6mm total, and that feels like as much as i’d want to wear comfortably. my finger’s a size 5.5. 

Post # 7
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My engagement ring has a 2.8mm band, and I plan to get a 3mm wedding band to solder to it so it’ll end up at almost 6mm. I’m also getting a wider band to stand alone when I don’t want to be wearing my solitaire, but I think 5-6mm is a good range. 8-10 may cover more of your finger than you’d like, so hovering around the 6mm that is about the size of most men’s bands could be another option. I’d try some on at a store and see what looks too small, too big, etc. 

Post # 8
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

10mm seems a bit large for a woman. I’m getting a 10mm for my SO because he is 6’2″ and has huge hands. Anything smaller than 9-10mm looks goofy on his big fingers.

Post # 9
3292 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Go to a jewelry store and try some on. We ordered our bands online but did try on different widths in a store to decide on the width. If you feel bad going to a store knowing you’re not going to buy anything, you could always make little mock-ups at home by cutting strips of paper in different widths. 

FYI, I ended up going with 2 or 2.5 mm (can’t remember), but I wear mine with another ring. DH went with 6 mm, which I try on sometimes and think looks great by itself on my hand. 🙂

Post # 10
6 posts
  • Wedding: July 2000

If you’re only wearing the wedding band (and not the engagement ring), then I’d go with 8mm or more.  I have a gorgeous 8 or 9mm yellow gold band that I wear sometimes and I think the wider bands look really beautiful.  Mine is very comfortable.  For reference, I wear a size 5 ring.  I also have a 4mm etoile band and while I like it, I feel like the width is kind of awkward unless I pair it with another ring.  I’ve seen pictures of Olivia Wilde wearing a wide yellow band, at least until she announced her divorce this week.  You could google her to see.   I agree though, go try some on if you can.


Post # 12
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My finger is an 8, and I only wear the band on it.  (I switched the engagement ring to my right hand.)  Mine is 4mm, and is definitely wide enough.  Sometimes I think it’s too wide, and I should have found one that was 2.5 or 3mm, but most of the time I love it.  I think wider than 4mm would drive me nuts.  But go try some on, see what you think.

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