(Closed) How will you announce your elopement?

posted 9 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
7439 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We announced ours before hand… and it worked for us.

We are Encores, and older though, so that might make a difference… a lot of families would be peeved if their 20 or 30 something children got married and didn’t include them in the festivities (as a Mom, I know I’d be upset with mine)

In our case, we got Engaged, announced our Engagement to folks, and told them we were planning to get married over the Christmas Holidays… out of town, in the sunshine, on the beach.

Some of our Friends & Family expressed a STRONG interest in coming along

We told them no… it wasn’t what we wanted

We have a lot of great LOVED ONES in our lives… people who LOVE us very much… and were truly OVERJOYED that we found LOVE again at our age.

So it became apparent that there were some hurt feelings.

I felt we had to make ammends (Mr TTR didn’t feel that as strongly)

In the end we agreed together to have / Host a Back Home Reception after the Honeymoon…

It was an Evening Party (8 PM to 1 AM) and very informal.  Cocktails & Hors d’ouevres – Cake & Champagne – and a DJ & Dancing

We went low key with NO Wedding Attire, NO Vow Renewal, NO Flowers, Bouquet or Garter Toss

We did have a Wedding Cake, Cake Cutting Ceremony, Toasting, and a First Dance

As there are no real rules for a Back Home Reception Party… you can do as you please.  Formal / Casual – Big / Little – Wedding like or not.

The Event was a lot of fun.  Everyone (including us) had a good time.

It gave everyone a chance to celebrate, and feel like they were part of our LIFE CHANGING event… and was a good milestone for us (vs just coming home and not celebrating)

Any hard feelings / hurt disappeared entirely.

Hope this helps,

PS… We once upon a time thought of just getting married and not telling anyone a thing (not even an ERing before)… BUT as romantic as it sounded to us… we realized that it would be hurtful for the people we love and care about… they would have definitely felt “cheated out” of having the opportunity to be part of it all on some level.  Hence WHY we had a regular Engagement, a private Wedding Ceremony… and an inclusive Reception.


Post # 5
34 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013


I’ve decided to do a postcard photo collage so people can see pictures of us from our wedding day. We’re “eloping” with immediate family only so no worries about other relatives finding out before our parents. My worries are about sending it to relatives i haven’t seen in years (although keep up with through facebook), and them thinking we’re only sending the announcement for a gift. Not my intention. Although my extended family has drifted apart, doesn’t mean i don’t want to share my happiness and have them informed of my marriage.

Post # 6
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

A girl on here had a movie made and it was so cute. She sent it out as the annoucement. That’s what my fi and i are thinking of doing. The video is linked below. 


Post # 7
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are going to send out announcements that I made and printed out the morning that we are leaving for the Coast. We’re eloping that afternoon, so most people here in Oregon will get the announcements on Saturday while we are still on our honeymoon. 🙂


Post # 8
4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@bananapancakes96:  That is sticky!  Luckily we did not have anyone poopoo the elopement idea, I wish more ladies had this kind of response!


I actually told many people on phone or email prior to our departure.


While on our trip, someone (I think my sister) posted a congratulations comment on my Facebook wall, and from there we did say we got married and the reponses flooded in – all congratulations.  Then a week later we had some teaser wedding photos to post.


Then 4 months later was Christmas, and I used a wedding photo to make a holiday card.  I think that’s how any non-close relatives who aren’t on Facebook learned.


So no mailed annoucement for us.

Post # 9
27 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

We announced our elopement on Facebook a couple days after we were married. We posted our  bride & groom photos and congratulatory comments poured in.

Post # 10
45 posts

@PacificMrs:  I love the wording! I might have to steal it for our announcements. 😉

Post # 10
1 posts

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PacificMrs:  where did you get the adorable announcement card?  i love it

Post # 11
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Local Resort

We are older as well and we have decided to elope. We are going to be married before our cruise in April. So the 7 days on a boat will be the honeymoon. 

We are having a dinner in November for close friends and family. But I have jigsaw puzzle announcements and plumb colored organza bags Already. We are going to take a picture on th boat and pu it onto the puzzle card. When people put the puzzle together it will say something like meet the new mr and mrs. 

Post # 12
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

FI’s cousin and his now wife (third time lucky) were planning a regular wedding then surprised everyone by eloping 6 months before the big day! They are both older encores so it made sense but they literally didn’t tell a sole then announced it by taking out an ad in the local paper! Their kids and parents were so upset and it caused a massive fallout which still isn’t fully resolved now almost a year later (they had a blessing/reception on the date the wedding was originally planned for and one of her sons refused to attend).

I don’t think it was the fact they eloped that was the problem, I think it was more to do with how they announced it – I know his mother was embarassed and hurt not to be personally told before everyone else for example. Just something to consider…

Post # 13
471 posts
Helper bee

All our family and close friends know we plan to elope. We have been very open about it. The date will be a secret. I will make announcement cards once we are back and include a mini little printed photo album or a CD with pictures on, which we will send out to all… 

Post # 14
203 posts
Helper bee

I think Selly Jo above has a very good point . I love all the clever   ways people have announced they have  eloped and are already married , but I know if  I  had done  it my parents  would have been mortified to learn it in public with  a crowd around them  . I would have taken them aside just before the announcemnt, told them and then announced it .

Post # 15
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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tkhunter:  Thanks! I’m actually a graphic designer, so it was a DIY. 🙂

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