(Closed) How would this make you feel?

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Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would feel pretty crappy and wonder why my coworkers didn’t like me. I DEFINITELY wouldn’t get anyone a gift (wth?) or even mention the party. I’d just keep being nice and myself and remember I have other friends outside work who like me and who don’t do douchebag things like have a party over the weekend, exclude one person from a group and then post pics of it on FB.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee

FromA2B2013:  I’d be relieved that I didn’t have to go, haha- but I’m sort of introverted and hate those things. 

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

coffeedrinker:  aren’t teachers supposed to be the touchstones for being nice to friends?

Where did you get that idea? Teachers are just people and as such some are nice people and others aren’t. I have known some teachers who are wonderful  and others who are terrible in many different ways.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

julies1949:  Yeah, me too. I’m just always surprised when I meet people who spend their entire day preaching to children the importance of being inclusive and considerate, yet fail to do so in their own right. I think it’s a standard the most teachers I know and work with try to live up to. But then again, I’m fortunate to work with such a lovely group of ladies!

Post # 24
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Helper bee

coffeedrinker:  Eh, I don’t see the contradiction or any hypocrisy. I’m a primary school teacher. Of course I encourage the kids to be inclusive and considerate to others in school, but I can’t imagine telling a kid that she has to invite people she isn’t close to or doesn’t like to her birthday party. 

If anything, kids have to learn that school or the workplace are separate to their personal lives. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

julies1949:  right? Sorry, but “if you can’t include everyone don’t do XYZ at all” doesn’t apply in real life. Not realistic.

It would be different if this were something taking place IN the workplace during work hours, but this was a private event held on personal time. I think people try to blend professional and personal way too much these days, and as a result form all kinds of unfounded expectations.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t care. But then, I’m not a people person either 😛

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

coffeedrinker:  Honestly, my school is the biggest gossip, cattiness factory I’ve ever worked. You’d think everyone working with kids would be the nicest, kindest people but they SO aren’t…

FromA2B2013:  I’d probably let it go as well. Judging from the teacher who threw it saying she had nothing planned, I would assume that you are just not invited. Perhaps give the teacher a small gift before she leaves on maternity leave, but I probably wouldn’t be like, “I know there was a shower and I wasn’t invited, but here’s a gift anyway”. 

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