Post # 32
There is a house in my neighborhood that looked a lot like this one before they renovated… I’m on my Kindle but I’ll try to find pictures later. They added a porch and some craftsman style detailing and it’s now one of my favorite houses in the neighborhood.
Post # 33
Is this something you are being pressured to do because it would make things easier for your cousin? Sure, he can give you a good deal. Since there is no commission to a real estate broker, he nets the same or more. I disagree that buying from family is always necessarily a bad move, but if this house does not make sense for you financially or logistically, just keep looking. Everyone will have to get over it.
Post # 34
Do NOT buy a house you hate just to keep from creating a mildly awkward situation with your cousin. You’re probably going to be stuck with this thing for another 10-20 years and if he’s in a hurry to ‘give you a deal’ there could be something seriously wrong with it (and if you do decide to go through with it for some bizarre reason, absolutely have an inspector go through it and pinpoint any possible money sinks).
Houses are hard enough to renovate and maintain without spending your money on something you don’t even want.
Post # 35
- Wedding: June 2014 - Latitude 41
@thenextmrsi: I completely agree with @mypinkshoes:
adding a porch will give the home more structure. (Of course, still get rid of the awnings and big bushes and I would consider new siding too). You have to figure in all these costs to see if it is even worth buying. It doesn’t look like there is a lot of room from the front door to side walk so you couldn’t have a porch that goes out too much but here are some additional pictures I found…
These first two are good because they don’t take up much room.
You may not be able to have as deep of a porch as this one but you can have one the length of the home.
You could always extend the roof out a bit to get something like this…
or this (without the slate)…
I’m not sure how much it would be to add a porch but I really think adding one will completely transform the exterior of the home. Good luck!!
Post # 36
@thenextmrsi: Get rid of the huge bushes. They make the house look even smaller.
Also, get rid of the window awnings. Those are hideous.
If you can re-do the siding to all match instead of having the two different types on the front, that would look super.
Also, if you could add a full porch instead of a stoop, that would help tremendously!
Post # 37
Just read the update. You do NOT “have to” buy from family!!! Just say you really appreciate the offer, and the house is wonderful (lie), but you are trying to find something more of your style. You want a fresh start with your hubby. Do NOT let your family guilt you into buying a major purchase that you don’t love!!
Post # 38
Based on the fact that you both hate the house, I vote that you just not buy it. The only way to renovate the inside to suit you would be to gut it, and at that point all of the money saved in this transaction would go out the window and then some. While it is admirable that you guys would want to help out family, you shouldn’t do it at such a high cost! Keep looking.
Post # 39
Those are exactly the kinds of examples I thought about when I saw the photo of the house in question! Very nice!!
OP, you have a lot going on here, and could probably benefit by just taking a deep breath and sorting out the various issues.
First, the shennannigans on the purchase of your “dream house.” If your offer was actually accepted, I don’t believe it can “recalled.” You may have legal recourse here: if you really want that house, you should talk to an attorney ASAP.
Secondly, the feeling of family pressure to buy your cousin’s house. You and your husband need to get very clear with each other that yielding to pressure from others about a decision as big as this one is not healthy. Try to just set that part of aside. This is your (you and your husband’s) decision about your home, and it is nobody’s else’s business.
Thirdly, if you truly hate this house, do’t even consider it. Period.
But fourthly – of your use of the term “hate” is partly related to the pressure you’re getting, and partly related to not liking the house as is, this house could be a great blank slate for remodeling. You’d have to do a very careful analysis of realistic costs to remodel it into something you might actually love, and whether adding those costs onto the stated “good deal” purchase price makes financial sense for you two.
What about the location/ neghborhood? Do you like that?
Lots of things to think about, but the most important thing is to stpe back and refuse to be pressured. Buying a home is one of the biggest investments you’ll make, and you should try to leave emotions out of it as much as possible.
Post # 40
I would shop around if I were you! Fiance and I were in a somewhat similar situation. His best friend who married his cousin were looking to sell their house and they keep suggested that WE buy it! Their house is actually cute on the outside, but it is too big for my Fiance and I, costs too much, has no main floor bathroom, tiny bedrooms, and laundry in the basement. For me, I just don’t like it. We did however just find a home we loved in our price range, the layout is fantastic, the bathroom on the mainfloor is beautiful PLUS has laundry in it which I loved! (I have had a back injury so carrying laundry up and down stairs is not for me) it has two mainfloor good sized bedrooms with good sized closets, a kitchen that fits my personality perfectly, well maintained, beautiful basement with a wood burning stove fireplace. It’s just perfect for us and is in our desired budget (below even!) We love the inside, the outside could use some TLC though… (it’s pink with awning similar to the ones on the photo you shared). Other than a little TLC, the only thing I might change is that they have sticky things all over the walls (like paintings that are just stickers). I think once their stuff is out it will look even better. The guest bedroom was filled with antique dolls but once you look past all the tchotchkes it’s a beautiful home. Sometimes the best thing you can do is shop around until you find a home that fits your budget, personality, desired amount of fixing up (if any) and location.
If you did choose to go with this house, what are a list of Pros and Cons about it? Are the cons deal breakers or things you can change or look past?