Post # 1
In most cases where I’m sending an invitation to a couple and their children, I’d just write “The Smith Family.” But I have a situation where my aunt, who has four daughters by her first husband, has remarried, and while she has taken her new husband’s last name, her daughters have kept their last name. So say my aunt and her husband have the last name Jones, and her daughters have the last name Smith, and then her hubby also has a daughter, whose last name is Jones.
“The Jones Family” doesn’t seem right to me (even though I grew up in a household where my last name was different than everyone else’s, and I didn’t have any problem being referred to as part of “The Doe Family” when my last name wasn’t Doe – in this situation it seems significant to me that there are FOUR girls whose last name is Smith – in fact, the Smiths outnumber the Joneses in this household, even though Jones is the name of the married couple).
So I thought about “The Jones-Smith Family,” but does that seem odd? Because nobody’s last name is actually hyphenated.
I think that leaves me with “Mr. Bob Jones & Ms. Mary Jones & Family” (because I don’t think my aunt is the type of lady who’d like to be referred to as “Mrs. Bob Jones”). Though that just sounds like a mouthful.
Thoughts? I think I am leaning towards the last option…
Post # 3
In my house growing up we had three last names under one roof. Not everyone realized the tricky situation and would address envelopes to “the_____family” and use whatever last name they were most familiar with (if it was a co-worker of my step father they would use his last name, for example). Family and close friends, however, addressed all things using all five of our first names which I always preferred. You can write your aunt and uncles name on one line and then list the four children underneath.
Post # 4
I didn’t mean to hit submit yet… Haha
I was going to say, I think if the options you listed the last is the best; the patents areleaned and the kids, regardlessname last name, are covered by “family.” I think that’s your best bet if you want the invitation to sound more formal 🙂 hope that helps!
Post # 5
Ok, last comment in a row, I swear but I just have to say…. Autocorrect with a iPhone on this site is horrific! That sentence should say “the parents are named and the kids, regardless of last name, are covered…”
Post # 6
@ms.christmas_deer: I would put the smith – jones family
Post # 7
Thanks for your thoughts, guys. 🙂
Post # 9
In your case I would do like HeMadeMeWantTo said and put
Mr. And Mrs. Smith
But, I do feel where you’re coming from. If someone were to send me an invitation with all our names, they would all be different. My Fiance has his last name, obviously, I have my maiden name, and my daughter has the name of her biological father. I think we would be:
Mr. Jon W
and Miss Tricia H—
Families are complicated, for real. I’ve started making our guest list just so we can tell venues an estimaed guest list number. I have several that are complicated. Good luck!
Post # 10
How formal is your wedding? And do the daughters still live at home?
It’s much, much easier if you are using inner and outer envelopes.
Outer will read: Mr. and Mrs. Bob Jones (You can do “Ann and Bob Jones,” but technically, “Mr. Bob Jones and Ms. Ann Jones” sometimes is interpreted as the two are siblings who live together. Although, in this day and age, if you think your aunt will really care, then screw it and do what you want)
Inner (/=line separation): Ann & Bob Jones / Elizabeth, Mary, Margaret, Christine Doe / Amy Jones (Amy, in this case, goes last because it’s alpha order after family “rank”–ie, parents always go first)
If you are just doing outer envelopes then you could do:
Ann & Bob Jones & Family
Ann & Bob Jones
Elizabeth, Mary, Margaret, and Christine Doe
Ann & Bob Jones
Amy, Elizabeth, Christine, Margaret, and Mary (I alpha ordered them, but you can do it by age as well)
Post # 11
@BothCoasts: Nope, no inner envelopes – saving trees and money. 🙂
The wedding is not terribly formal – semi-formal, I guess. The invitations are not super formal. They’re worded traditionally, but without titles for our names and parents’ names. I am using titles on the envelopes, though. Then we’re writing in the names of all individuals invited on the RSVP card (so it’s clear who’s invited, and to avoid a scenario where someone sends back an RSVP without writing in their name).
For a lot of couples, when addressing the envelopes, I’m using Mr. Bob Jones & Ms. Ann Jones because I know some people will just be flat-out offended by Mr. & Mrs. Bob Jones. Though I have never heard that writing “Mr. Bob Jones & Ms. Ann Jones” might be misinterpreted as a brother and sister. I have always heard that writing people’s names on the same line joined with “and” denotes that they are married/in a relationship, and that if you addressing an envelope to roommates or siblings each name goes on a separate line.
Regardless, I suppose it doesn’t matter, because the only people receiving the envelope will be Bob and Ann, and I’m pretty sure they know they’re married. 😀
Post # 12
I would do this:
Mr. & Mrs. Michael Brady
Greg, Jan, Peter, Marcia, Bobby & Cindy
UNLESS the daughters are adults. I don’t think it’s appropriate to drop the last name if they’re adults.