Post # 1
Background – we’ve been addressing invites to married couples as “Mr. and Mrs. (husband’s name)” and families as “The (last name) Family.” Unmarried living together couples names’ are on seperate rows in alpha order by last name. Families with only one child invited are married couples’ name on the top row and child’s name the row below.
Family #1 – Mother, son and daughter have ex-husband’s last name. One son doesn’t live at home. Ex-husband is invited, but the invite will go to his home. Anyway, I don’t feel right writing “The __ Family” since one son is getting a seperate invite.
Family #2 – Mother, son and daughter live with mother’s bf. He has a different last name; mother, son and daughter have ex-husband’s last name. Ex-husband isn’t invited, and there are only 2 kids, both live at home and both are invited. I’m completely baffled at this one.
Alright you smart ladies…. GO!
Post # 3
Are you using inside envelopes. If not, here are my suggestions…
For #1, I might write “Ms. Smith” on the top line and then “Joe and Jane Smith” for the kids on the next line.
For #2, we had a situation like this with my uncle and my stepcousins. We did “Mr. Jones and Family”
Post # 4
1) Jane Doe
Chris and Amanda Doe
2) Jane Doe and John Smith
Laura and Adam Doe
I have absolutely no good reasoning behind these, but that’s what I’d do
Post # 5
@Gemstone: No, no inner envelopes. Hopefully that’s not a huge faux pas!
Post # 6
@redheadem: Not a huge faux pas! I was only asking because I may have answered differently if you’d been using them.
Post # 7
@Gemstone: Also, for #2, the bf has a different last name. So do you mean it should say “Mr. John Jones and the Smith Family”?
Post # 8
@JenGirl: yep – I’d add the Ms. & Mr. salutations where approriate, but this.
Post # 9
@redheadem: Yeah, I guess it’s a little more tricky when the mom isn’t married to the Boyfriend or Best Friend.
With my family, it was my uncle and his new wife, and three stepcousins. New wife had some last name as my uncle, but the stepcousins kept their dad’s name.
In that instance, we did “Mr. Jones and Family” meaning my uncle and his family.
I hadn’t thought about the fact that that doesn’t work quite as well if they aren’t married. I think your suggestion might work though!
Post # 10
Haha we addressed all the straightforward ones last night. This is annoying me. Keep the suggestions coming!
Post # 11
You said you were seperating live-in couples by lines, so what about
#2- Mr. John Doe
Ms. Jane Smith and family
For #1 I would just write out their names putting mom on the first line and kids on the second line. For the son who doesn’t live at home, I would still include him on mom’s invite. I was included on wedding invites when I wasn’t technically living at home either (and before I was engaged and part of my own “social unit”) and it didn’t bother me one bit.
Post # 12
@WoodenShoes: Agh forgot to mention the son who lives away will get his own invite, which is why I felt weird saying “the __ family.” But I do like mom on one line, kids on another.