(Closed) how would you answer this?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
4839 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ask her whats making her feel like you want that. Ask her if she is feeling like she wants to back out.  Be honest with her. 

Post # 4
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Can you sit and talk to her? It sounds like she feels guilty and is giving you and out to replace her. Whatever we read into this we don’t know. Only talking to her wil solve this

Post # 6
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Maybe she feels like she is not really wanted as you have not involved her very much. You mentioned that you haven’t asked much of her, which you probably think is being helpful, but perhaps it is making her feel left out or not needed?

This is obviously something that is weighing on her mind & it sounds like she needs some reassurance from you. I would be honest, that’s what she’s asking for. So just tell her you have no idea where this is coming from, you love her & want her to be part of your day & if there is anything making her question this, please let you know.

Post # 7
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You can’t call? I hear phones do that too…

Post # 8
9519 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

That sounds harsh, what I meant with that is text can easily be misinterpreted. A phone call is better

Post # 11
105 posts
Blushing bee


It sounds like she’s feeling insecure about things. I would give her the reassurance that she’s clearly seeking.

Post # 12
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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vanessa1359:  is there someone specific that she’s talking about that you’ve gotten close to lately? Who is “your other friend” ? Maybe she’s feeling jealous/guilty about your new relationship (with a new girlfriend) and assumes you are bonding over wedding stuff when she’s unable to be there. I think her text is more of a cry of reassurance of your friendship than an out of being a bridesmaid. Some girls feel neglected when their friends start making new friends! I hope it all worked out when you called her this morning. Let us know!

Post # 14
24 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

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vanessa1359:  this certainly sounds like she wants out, and I say that because I myself have said something like that before when I did not want to be a part of something. Try talking to her to figure out if it’s money or if she just doesn’t want to take on all the work that comes with the role. Hope you get some answers! 

Post # 15
2759 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

“What’s going on? When can you talk? Call me when you get out of work!” 

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