(Closed) How would you deal with someone like this?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you say?
    John Doe's statement is false. He isn't invited, we haven't even made the invites yet. : (8 votes)
    9 %
    It's a small wedding. Due to budget/venue restrictions John Doe isn't invited and neither is she. : (8 votes)
    9 %
    No response at all. : (67 votes)
    74 %
    Run for the hills. Call the National Guard. Buy a gas mask. Have water and food for 6 months. : (7 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1571 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you should punch her in her crazy face. And then ignore her messages.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    NEVER speak to her again!! She just uses you to get her jollies, and you answering her is just fueling the fire.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    This is bordering on stalking and harrasment and if she had the gall to write your fiance, she is wacko, to boot! I’m sorry about her!!

    I voted ignore the hell out of her. You owe her nothing!

    Post # 6
    Member
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @LMD84: Actually, I like your response better!!

    Post # 7
    Member
    46670 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why are you staying connected to this woman in any way?

    She has told you to never contact her again. Follow her instructions.

    I can’t for the life of me, figure out why you would want to maintain ANY sort of relationship with this toxic person.

    Post # 8
    Member
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Um this is crazy! It sounds like she just pulled someone out of thin air that she thought you would invite just so she could ask/find out if you were invited! Don’t invite her it will cause drama. Big huge drama that no one wants on their wedding day!

    Post # 9
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would go so far as to have your phone company block her number. Don’t even waste your time on a response to her. She’s a psycho. (I had this same problem with an ex-friend) they thrive on drama so don’t take the bait!

    Post # 10
    Member
    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Crazy.  I’d probably just ignore her.  Easier said than done though. If she has the potential and would crash your wedding, I’d tell her that your wedding is small.  Maybe if you ignore her texts she’ll give up?

    Post # 11
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    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I wouldn’t respond to her at all. Whether or not you are inviting John Doe doesn’t matter, you can invite any person you want to your wedding and it doesn’t need to be okayed by her. You have had 7 months with no contact, make that number grow larger. This woman is just trying to meddle in your life and clearly she has no business being there. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would text back and say either, “Sorry, who is John Doe?” or else, “Sorry, who is this?” (hehe…the second one is a bit mean spirited.)

    ETA: Theoretically she’d be like “My friend John Doe…blah blah blah” and you can be like, “Why would we invite someone we don’t know to our wedding?”

    i.e. avoid actually answering her question. Probably best to just ignore her all together, I guess.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Dont’ feed the stray dog or it will never go away. This stands for ex-boyfriends and crazy bitches, as well. 

     

    Does she know when are where your wedding is? I’d be terrified. She sounds like a wack job. 

    Post # 16
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    1571 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Cornflakegirl: NY knows how to bring class to the table!

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