(Closed) How would you deal with this co-worker? (Aside from smacking her in the face…)

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That’s weird.  Just say “Hey, I don’t like it when people touch my hair”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

WTF? Really? That’s so weird of her to do that… 

Maybe just tell her to grow her hair out so she has something to braid… haha

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Go to the bathroom and put your hair in a bun.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

WOW that is SO invasive and rude not to mention weird. Next time she does it if you are a passive person just say I have to go to the restroom and keep doing that (hopefully she’ll get the hint) if you are more aggressive just tell her flat out that while you appreciate that she likes your hair it is not appropriate and makes you feel uncomfortable when she plays with your hair and to please refrain from doing so in the future!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just make it clear that while you appreciate her love of our hair you really don’t like people touching it. Be nice yet assertive. If that does not work buy her a lifesize barbie with a comb and hairbows and maybe she will get what you mean. lol

Sealed

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Just straight-up tell her not to touch your hair.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That’s messed up. Definitely tell her, “I’m not really comfortable with having people touch my hair.” If she does it again after that, “I asked you not to touch my hair, and I meant it. If you touch my hair again, I’m going to talk to (name of supervisor).” And if she does it again after that, go to the supervisor and tell them you don’t WANT to file sexual harassment charges, but if she keeps touching you, you will. Document all the instances in case it does go that far. Companies will usually try to keep it in-house with arbitration or disciplinary action, but you want that record.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh gosh, thats weird. I would tell her ok, I know you are obsessed with my hair but please stop touching it. Or when you see her put it in a bun, or buy one of those synthetic fake long hair weaves at the beauty store for a couple bucks and put it on her desk.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@JoJo Bananas: haha I was going to say the same thing!

If you wear your hair already braided or in a bun (or otherwise out of her reach), maybe she’ll get the message.

This coworker shouldn’t force you to have to wear your hair out of the way just so she won’t bother it, though. Honestly, if a simple “please don’t touch my hair” doesn’t work than this girl really is crazy.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I really don’t understand why people see long hair and they feel that is is okay to touch it. Up untill a year or so ago (I donated it) I had hair down to my belt. People would always come and touch my hair and say “Your hair is so beautiful.” I never had the balls to say anything to random people but I would give them dirty looks. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would say “I’m flattered that you love my hair so much, but i have to admit how much I dislike it when people play with it. I’m also really busy with work and would appreciate it if you stopped”

If she keeps trying after that then tell your boss.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

I fully agree with kristophine

This is completely innapropriate and needs to be stopped. Go through the proper channels.

However….the devil in me would suggest that the next time she does it, you start making orgasmic noises really loudly. That should stop her.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Um, wtf?  Seriously, I’d be like “that’s really uncomfortable, please stop.”

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TinyTina: Are you sure smacking her in the face isn’t an option?  That’s just ridiculous.  On the bright side, she could be like my coworker and ask you to tweeze her chin hair for her.  -__-

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