Post # 1
I am pretty quiet and reserved in my office. I keep to myself and pretty much just sit at my desk, do my work and go home. Now, to fully appreciate this story you need to know that I have waist-length hair that I usually wear pulled back in a high ponytail.
Lately one of my co-workers (who is incredibly intrusive and borderline rude with some of the questions she asks…) comes up behind while I’m sitting at my desk and starts playing with my hair. She tells me how she loves my long hair and she just can’t walk by without braiding it. And then SHE BRAIDS MY HAIR. In the office. While I’m sitting at my desk trying to work.
WTF?? Last time I checked I wasn’t a 13 year old girl and this isn’t a slumber party!!
She just did right now and I swear I almost smacked her.
Can anyone please, please, please give me advice on how to deal with this insane co-worker?!?!
Post # 3
That’s weird. Just say “Hey, I don’t like it when people touch my hair”
Post # 4
WTF? Really? That’s so weird of her to do that…
Maybe just tell her to grow her hair out so she has something to braid… haha
Post # 5
Go to the bathroom and put your hair in a bun.
Post # 6
WOW that is SO invasive and rude not to mention weird. Next time she does it if you are a passive person just say I have to go to the restroom and keep doing that (hopefully she’ll get the hint) if you are more aggressive just tell her flat out that while you appreciate that she likes your hair it is not appropriate and makes you feel uncomfortable when she plays with your hair and to please refrain from doing so in the future!
Post # 7
Just make it clear that while you appreciate her love of our hair you really don’t like people touching it. Be nice yet assertive. If that does not work buy her a lifesize barbie with a comb and hairbows and maybe she will get what you mean. lol
Post # 8
Just straight-up tell her not to touch your hair.
Post # 9
That’s messed up. Definitely tell her, “I’m not really comfortable with having people touch my hair.” If she does it again after that, “I asked you not to touch my hair, and I meant it. If you touch my hair again, I’m going to talk to (name of supervisor).” And if she does it again after that, go to the supervisor and tell them you don’t WANT to file sexual harassment charges, but if she keeps touching you, you will. Document all the instances in case it does go that far. Companies will usually try to keep it in-house with arbitration or disciplinary action, but you want that record.
Post # 10
Oh gosh, thats weird. I would tell her ok, I know you are obsessed with my hair but please stop touching it. Or when you see her put it in a bun, or buy one of those synthetic fake long hair weaves at the beauty store for a couple bucks and put it on her desk.
Post # 11
@JoJo Bananas: haha I was going to say the same thing!
If you wear your hair already braided or in a bun (or otherwise out of her reach), maybe she’ll get the message.
This coworker shouldn’t force you to have to wear your hair out of the way just so she won’t bother it, though. Honestly, if a simple “please don’t touch my hair” doesn’t work than this girl really is crazy.
Post # 12
I really don’t understand why people see long hair and they feel that is is okay to touch it. Up untill a year or so ago (I donated it) I had hair down to my belt. People would always come and touch my hair and say “Your hair is so beautiful.” I never had the balls to say anything to random people but I would give them dirty looks.
Post # 13
I would say “I’m flattered that you love my hair so much, but i have to admit how much I dislike it when people play with it. I’m also really busy with work and would appreciate it if you stopped”
If she keeps trying after that then tell your boss.
Post # 14
I fully agree with kristophine.
This is completely innapropriate and needs to be stopped. Go through the proper channels.
However….the devil in me would suggest that the next time she does it, you start making orgasmic noises really loudly. That should stop her.
Post # 15
Um, wtf? Seriously, I’d be like “that’s really uncomfortable, please stop.”
Post # 16
@TinyTina: Are you sure smacking her in the face isn’t an option? That’s just ridiculous. On the bright side, she could be like my coworker and ask you to tweeze her chin hair for her. -__-