(Closed) How would you feel…???

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@nygirl222:  You have to realize that every family dynamic is different, and if you think about how things “SHOULD” go all the time, you are going to be disappointed. Instead, focus on what they do well, and in what other ways they are nice to you, and accept them for who they are, because you can not change the family you get. The only thing you can choose is how you respond to them when they do make whatever effort they expend. Unfortunately, you can not force someone to give what they are incapable of providing, be it financial, or emotional. 

Post # 4
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

Only you (and your fiance) should be paying for your wedding- and you shouldn’t get upset that no one is offering any cash. Emotional support- that is either a hit or miss- I would lean on your family more for that one.

Post # 5
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8435 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@armychica06:  Agree with this.

Also have you stopped to consider that this might be hard on them as well- their brother is getting married and their mother is dead- I am sure it is bringing up all kinds of feelings for them as well- maybe they aren’t getting involved because they don’t want you to see how upset they are (about their mum not being there for this) and put a downer on your experience. A little bit of compassion and consideration goes a long way.

As PP said lean on your family more.

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