Post # 137
I honestly don’t think I’d be annoyed or upset. I would probably be dead excited that someone elses special day was shared with mine. If my sister had ‘let’ other people get engaged on her wedding day (she jokngly said to my boyf that she’d be horrified and VERY annoyed if someone got engaged at her wedding) I would have been engaged and also married by now. I have not let her know that this hugely affected my partner, because in retrospect I think she’d be horrified. Sure he could have done it the day after, but he didn’t and it took him another 2 years to pluck up the courage.
Don’t get me wrong if it was done when I was half way down the aisle I may be rather annoyed but if it was at the speeces or after the meal I would just be excited! 🙂 Same with pregs announcements, I would be very happy that someone wanted to share our special day. I think!
Post # 138
So many good answers and advice to thwart any possible plan of this happening at my reception!
Post # 139
Annoyed! very much so! can you Fiance mention it in passing, maybe in a joke way “Oh and if you are going to propose, please dont do it at my wedding” hahaha
I have a friend who is LOVELY but a little similar she got engaged 3 months after me then booked her wedding on the day of my hen do / a couple of weeks before my wedding – the difference is I dont think she MEANT to do that so I grumbled to Fiance and then left it and changed my Hen Do.
Post # 140
NO BUENO lol not a time to steal someone’s shine!
Post # 141
- Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza
+1. That’s would I would do. Yay for being passive-aggressive. 🙂
Post # 142
As a bride, I wouldn’t care. It’s still my day and I’m the staaaaaar! It would make for a good photo op too.
As the girl being proposed to, I’d be embarrassed and a little bit disenchanted. So he had to do absolutely nothing except ride on the coattails of someone else’s wedding? Boooooo.
Post # 143
i just got teary eyed reading that. so sweet!
Post # 144
I’ve always felt that brides get one day. This one day is ALL about the bride and groom, and the attention should be on them and no one else (unless the bride and groom choose to share).
There are a few things I think inappropriate to do at weddings (without B and G blessing):
- Announcing a divorce (yup, seen this happen)
- Announcing a marriage (like they went down to the courthouse and got hitched before your wedding)
- Anything that places someone other than B and G in the spotlight
The day before, the day after, any of the 364 days if the year are fair game, but someone’s wedding day is THEIR moment, and I think it is rude to try and make the couple share their moment. I’m actually very concerned that my sister might try and announce a pregnancy at my wedding, since she said she and her Fiance (then husband) will start TTC on their honeymoon. My sister, like your friend, must always be the spotlight and center of attention. At my engagement party all she talked about was her engagement, showed off her ring, told the story of her proposal 1000 times, and talked about all her wedding plans. Most of our guests thought the engagement party was for both of us, and some even thought it was for her… one even said to me “Isn’t it lovely that your sister is getting married! I guess you’re next in line.” I kinda laughed and said “Yeah, well, I’d hope so, this is mine and FI’s engagement party!” They looked shocked and a little embarassed. Sister had gotten engaged 2 weeks before my engagement party (I’d been engaged almost 2 months at this point, but Fiance was out of town for 5 weeks after we got engaged, so we had to postpone the engagement party a bit).
Post # 145
Honestly, I would be thrilled for any friend or family member that got engaged, regardless of when or where it was. I would probably be annoyed if they were to do it as an “upstaging” thing, or try to take serious attention away from my fiance/husband and I. Like, if they were to leap in front of family members congratulating us saying “Congratulate me!! I’m engaged!!” I’ve got an aunt that’s like that, so I daresay if she got engaged at my wedding, she would most likely act that way.
If it were virtually anyone other than my aunt, I would be so excited for them! I’m actually hoping my best friend’s boyfriend proposes to her at our wedding (or before it so everyone can be as excited as I will be).
Post # 146
I love your detailed reply. I feel like I can relate to you with the one uppers in my life lol. But wow that was messed up of your sister! That would have sent me over the edge.
There was a time a few days after we got engaged where a lot of people from church were hanging out and oohing and ahhing over my ring and the story of the proposal. They had a whole bunch of questions of course and apparently the gf of FI’s groomsmen was really jealous that everyone was talking to me and about our engagement instead of to her. She kept interjecting into every conversation like she was part of the group but nobody even knew her yet! Like I said in my first post, she had only been in the picture for 2 weeks by the time we got engaged. Some people…sheesh!
Post # 147
Yeah, I can totally relate. It is hard having people you’re close to, and truly care about, being one uppers. I think everyone deserves time in the spotlight, and everyone deserves their moments. It would be like giving a present to your kid at someone else’s birthday party, it just isn’t done.
I might have missed this, since I skipped through some of the replies, but how old is this GF? Groomsman? I know that people get jealous of engagements, but seriously, I don’t get why. I’ve even known people who are engaged/married who seem to get jealous over other people’s engagement. One of my co-workers recently got engaged and we were oohing and ahhing over her ring, and another co-worker came up, stuck her hand in the group and said, “Yeah, my husband also spent a lot of time picking out my ring. He got it custom designed. Did you get it custom designed?” When my co-worker said “No…” the other co-worker instantly went into how her Fiance should have got it custom made because that way no one had a ring like her’s.
Sometimes it makes me wonder if these people who try to one-up and/or “steal” moments realize that they are doing this. I honestly think that some people can’t see past the ends of their noses, and can only think about themselves.
I think this video accurately describes what I want to say to some of these people:
Post # 148
The girl is 21 and the guy is 24 I believe. Too old to be acting that way! And LOL at that Dr. Phil clip!
Post # 149
it would be VERY embarassing for him.
Everyone in the crowd would think he’s an ass for doing it at your wedding!!
Post # 150
My uncle proposed to his gf the day of my parents wedding. My mom said she was too happy that day to care.